Any problem in the world can be solved by dancing

"Any problem in the world can be solved by dancing : By James Brown"

Going through Techcrunch.com I found one interesting post on the "First Round Capital" groups and partner companies dancing their problems away.. ha ha haaaa I loved this ...

I would like you all to see this and learn how to dance your problems away for a healthy corporate and personal relstionships. If you are dancing, you are happy and so are the people around you... happy viewing...

Life's all about correcting mistakes

Rutali married Hitesh this day. At the end of the wedding party,
Rutali's mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook with Rs.1000 deposit amount.
Mother: 'Rutali, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life.
When there's something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in.
Write down what it's about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in.
I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with Hitesh.
When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you've had.'
Rutali shared this with Hitesh when getting home.
They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made.
This was what they did after certain time:
- 7 Feb: Rs.100, first birthday celebration for Hitesh after marriage
- 1 Mar: Rs.300, salary raise for Rutali
- 20 Mar: Rs.200, vacation trip to Bali
- 15 Apr: Rs.2000, Rutali got pregnant
- 1 Jun: Rs.1000, Hitesh got promoted
..... and so on...
However, after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things. They didn't talk much.
They regretted that they had married the nastiest people in the world.... no more love...Kind of typical nowadays, huh?
One day Rutali talked to her Mother:
'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can't imagine how
I decided to marry this guy!!!'
Mother: 'Sure, girl, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you really can't stand it. But before that, do one thing first.
Remember the saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first.
You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.'
Rutali thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue and planning to cancel the account.
While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked.
Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home.
When she was home, she handed the passbook to Hitesh, asked him to spend the money before getting divorce.
The next day, Hitesh gave the passbook back to Rutali. She found a new deposit of Rs.5000.
And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I notice how much I've loved you thru out all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.'
They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe.
Do you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not ask. I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone thru all the good years in their life.

I felt adding line to this would take away the basic of this note --- Rs 2000 Cr

Respecting Relationship is Respecting Self

Former President of USA, Mr Roanld Reagan to his son at the time of the latter's marriage.
Dear Mike,
You have heard all the jokes that have been rousted around by all the 'unhappy marrieds' and cynics. Now in case no one has suggested it, there is another viewpoint. You have entered into the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life. It can be whatever you decide to make it.
Some men feel their masculinity can only be proven if they play out in their own life all the locker-room stories, smugly confident that what a wife doesn't know won't hurt her. The truth is, somehow, way down inside, without her ever finding lipstick on the collar or catching a man in a filmsy excuse of where he was till 3 am, a wife does know, and with that knowing, some of the magic of the relationship disappears. There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves that there can ever be wives deserving of blame.
There is a old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out. Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back on an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn't take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick, and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music.
If you truly love a girl, you shouldn't ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other women to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the women you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors.
Mike, you know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of the door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.

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I just could not hold me sharing this very perspective of a fathers who has seen all in the world of married life and knows most of the twist and turns that goes on... Its really nice to be a little more caring about the one who stands with you in all your happenings... Happy Reading....

Expectations

I happen to meet one of my old colleague cum best friend on last weekend as he came down to my city for an interview. We were seeing each other after a year and we have so much to talk about. I happen to pick him and take him to my place where we had break fast and went out for the interview.

I waited for an hour and half for him to finish up the things and then we went to a pub. I was going to be married soon and he was going to be a father soon. I just happen to take some advice from him on marriage and there he went... He started by saying that you need to be mentally and emotionally strong to survive marriage. He said that just remember the expectations people use to have from us is going to increase by multiple folds.

My life flash back in front of me in minute remembering the expectations of my parents to be best in behavior and academically, the expectation of my teachers, expectations of my relatives, expectation of my friends, and expectations of myself from me. Oh gosh... now expectations of all of them with added expectations from my company, my wife , my kids, my wife relatives... The pressure went low in my body and my hands went cold and sweating...

I took few drinks and started wondering that when exactly is the right time for anything and my mind went blank... there is never a perfect time amongst the expectations that we live in..

Expectations before n after marriage changes drastically. But Yes !!! the emotional quotient need to be high to survive...

My friend went back with so many ifs and buts' in my mind with a expectation that I will survive but I don't wanna merely survive rather I wanna live this to its full...

Life means more than what we think and believe

I cant help sharing this in my blog relationship phoenix. It came to me as a mail and
it touched me ... Life has so much more to bestowe , more than what we can hold, the reason longs the perception....


WHEN A LIZARD CAN, WHY CAN'T WE?

This is a true story that happened in Japan.
In order to renovate the house, someone in Japan breaks open the wall.
Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls.
When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a lizard stuck there
because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet. He sees this,
feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail,
it was nailed 10 years ago when the house was first built.

What happened?

The lizard has survived in such position for 10 years!!!!!!! !!!

In a dark wall partition for 10 years without moving, it is impossible and
mind-boggling. Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 10 years!!!
Without moving a single step--since its foot was nailed! So he stopped his
work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it
has been eating. Later, not knowing from where it came appears another
lizard, with food in its mouth. Ah! He was stunned and touched deeply.
For the lizard That was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it
for the past 10 years...

Imagine? it has been doing that untiringly for 10 long years, without
giving up hope on its partner.Think, will u do that to your partner?

Imagine what a small creature can do that a creature blessed with a
brilliant mind can't. As information and communication technology
advances, our access to information becomes faster and faster.

But the Distance between human beings . . . is it getting closer as well?
Please never abandon your loved ones Never Say U R Busy When They Really
Need You ... You May Have The Entire World At Your Feet..... But You
Might Be The Only World To Them.... Before you say something just
remember It takes a moment to Break but an entire life to make...

The question is when we have been bestowed with gods greates gift life, why we compromise to merely survive and let go the real happiness of our life and loved ones. I really want to ask this question to all : Why and for whom really are we doing things... dont we know that its our presence and togetherness that counts above all ?

An Indian Speech

Dr. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam 's Speech in Hyderabad .

Why is the media here so negative?

Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements? We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stories but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why?

We are the first in milk production .
We are number one in Remote sensing satellites.
We are the second largest producer of wheat.
We are the second largest producer of rice.
Look at Dr. Sudarshan , he has transferred the tribal village into a
self-sustaining, self-driving unit. There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters. I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchidand a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news.

In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime. Why are we so NEGATIVE? Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign T. Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want f oreign technology.

Why this obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India . For her, you and I will have to build this developed India . You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed nation. Do you have 10 minutes? Allow me to come back with a vengeance.

Got 10 minutes for your country? If yes, then read; otherwise, choice is yours.

YOU say that our government is inefficient.
YOU say that our laws are too old.
YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage.
YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke,
The airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination.
YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.
YOU say, say and say. What do YOU do about it?

Take a person on his way to Singapore .. Give him a name - YOURS. Give him a face - YOURS. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are. You pay $5 (approx. Rs. 60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim causeway or Pedder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity... In Singapore you don't say anything, DO YOU? YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai .. YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah . YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds ( Rs.650) a month to, 'see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else.'YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop, 'Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so's son.

Take your two bucks and get lost.' YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New Zealand .

Why don't YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo ? Why don't YOU use examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston ??? We are still talking of the same YOU. YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India ?

Once in an interview, the famous Ex-municipal commissioner of Bombay , Mr. Tinaikar , had a point to make. 'Rich people's dogs are walked on the streets to leave their affluent droppings all over the place,' he said. 'And then the same people turn around to criticize and blame the authorities for inefficiency and dirty pavements. What do they expect the officers to do? Go down with a broom every time their dog feels the pressure in his bowels?

In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan .. Will the Indian citizen do that here?' He's right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility.

We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick a up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin. We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms.

We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity. This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to the public. When it comes to burning social issues like those related to women, dowry, girl child! and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse? 'It's the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons' rights to a dowry.' So who's going to change the system?

What does a system consist of ? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbours, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU. When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr.Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away.

Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to England .. When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money.

Dearar Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a great deal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too.... I am echoing J. F.. Kennedy 's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians.....

'ASK WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA
AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA
WHAT AMERICA AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY'

Lets do what India needs from us.

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Dr. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam

Reading this shrug me ... The media is not aware of the power it has.. it can make happen a revolution but they are so much commercialised that they go blind on their responsibilities... they will go for sting operation, they will be covering most of the events before govt. officials but they wont be doing any good thei save and except taling of what not is there and what lacks there, how people are suffering how why what when everything blah blah blah but I never saw a reporter involved in rescue operation ... comeon media ... still the hardcore truth is that in media also there are we people only who dont utilize our body itself rather just keep using mouth for commenting on everything , cursing the systems but doing nothing for it...
if there needs to be a change in system then its we are the first who needs to change in our ATTITUDE.. we are root to the system and we are the leaves and stem all part...so its we who need to be changed... wake up brothers...its time....
JAAGO INDIA JAAGO.....

नारायणी नमोस्तुते

"या देवी सर्व भूतेषु शक्ति रुपेण संस्थिता
नमःतस्यै, नमःतस्यै, नमःतस्यै नमो नमः''

अशी अंबेची आराधना करण्याचे हे दिवस. आदिमायेच्या भजनात, पूजनात गुंग होण्याचे दिवस. नवरात्र- म्हणजे नऊ रात्री. आश्विन शुद्ध प्रतिपदा ते नवमीपर्यंत. आश्विन शुद्ध प्रतिपदेस घटस्थापना होऊन माता दुर्गेचा उत्सव सुरू होतो. या नवरात्रामध्ये अंबेची पूजा करण्याची प्रथा भारतभर आहे. गुजरातमधील "गरबा'', कर्नाटकातील "यक्षगान'', आंध्रप्रदेशातील "रामलीला'', महाराष्ट्रातील "भोंडला'' व "देवीचे जागरण'' या आपल्या देशातील परंपरा आहेत.

पावसाळा सरतो आणि थंडीचा मागोवा देणाऱ्या शरदाची नांदी लावत आश्विन मास अवतरतो. शुद्ध प्रतिपदेपासूनच नवरात्र महोत्सवाला भारतभर प्रारंभ होतो. या महिन्याचे मूळ नाव आहे "ईष'' म्हणजे उडून जाणे. जेव्हा अनेक महिने सतत वर्षणारा पर्जन्यपक्षी उडून जातो तेव्हा ईष म्हणजे आश्विन मास सुरू होतो. मनाला ओलावा देणारा, सृष्टीला हिरवा शालू नेसवणारा, चातक पक्षाची तहान भागविणारा पाऊल गेल्याने मन उदास होते. पण विश्‍वव्यापी, त्रिगुणात्मक आदिमायेचे नवरात्र या उदासीनतेला उत्साहाची झालर कधी चढविते कळतच नाही. हा उत्सव दुर्गादेवीचा, शस्त्र पूजनाचा व सीमोल्लंघनाचा असा आशय घेऊन अपार उत्साहाने देशभर साजरा होतो. शिवरायांच्या संग्रामशील व कालोचित अशा सीमोल्लंघनाच्या पायंड्याने नवरात्राला एक जबरदस्त ऐतिहासिक परिणाम बहाल केला.

यामागची इतिहासात प्रचलित असलेली कथा अशी आहे. एकेकाळी देवांच्या नाशासाठी "दुर्गम'' नावाच्या असुराने घनघोर तपश्‍चर्या करून ब्रह्मदेवाला प्रसन्न करून देवांची ताकद असणारे चारही वेद मागून घेतले. या असुरामुळे सर्वत्र भीतीचे वातावरण होते, तेव्हा ब्रह्मवृंदाच्या व्याकुळतेला स्मरून आदिमातेने उन्मत्त दुर्गम असुराचा वध केला. दुर्गमचा वध केल्यामुळे हिला "दुर्गा' म्हटले जाते. याच देवीला पुढे काली, अंबा, भवानी असेही म्हटले गेले.

नवरात्राचा पहिलाच दिवस घटस्थापनेचा. या दिवशी मातीच्या वेदीवर घटाच्यावर पसरलेल्या ताम्हणात कुलदेवतेच्या प्रतिमेची व कुलदेवाच्या टाकांची प्रतिष्ठापना करून घटाभोवती पसरलेल्या निवडक मातीच्या गादीवाफ्यात गहू, ज्वारी, मका अशी सप्त धान्ये पेरली जातात. या दिवशी घटाजवळ लावलेला दिवा नऊ दिवस - रात्र तेवत राहणार असतो. या दिवसापासून घटाला प्रत्येक दिवशी एक माळ किंवा पहिल्या दिवशी एक, दुसऱ्यादिवशी दोन अशा वाढत्या क्रमाने बांधल्या जातात. ही माळ विशेषतः झेंडूच्या फुलांची असते.

पंचमीच्या दिवशी "ललितापंचमी'' चे व्रत करतात. यादिवशी ललिताअंबेला न खुडलेल्या दुर्वांच्या बेचाळीस पेंड्या वाहण्याची प्रथा आहे. दांपत्य पूजन केले जाते. रात्री जागरण हरीकथा कथन केले जाते.

अष्टमीच्या दिवशी चित्पावन ब्राह्मणात "महालक्ष्मी'' पुजिली जाते. हा महालक्ष्मीचा जागर घागर फुंकून केला जातो. यावेळी फक्त " फू..फू..'' एवढाच आवाज वातावरण निर्मिती करतो. तांदळाच्या पिठापासून तयार केलेला देवीचा मुखवटा दागदागिन्यांनी, फुलांनी सजविला जातो. नवीन लग्न झालेले असेल तर पहिल्या वर्षी नवपरिणीतेच्या सासरी किंवा माहेरी मोठ्या हौसेने महालक्ष्मीपूजन केले जाते. नवीन सुनेला घागर फुंकायला लावतात, नाव घ्यायला लावतात.

"अग अग वहिनी ये ना इकडे, महालक्ष्मी आहे बघ पुढे
साजण आहे ग तुझा तिकडे, आज तरी तू पाहा ना इकडे''

हे सगळे चालत असताना आपली राणी कशी घागर फुंकते हे पाहण्यास नवरोबा कुठेतरी लपून राहिलेले असतात. सगळंच प्रसन्न वातावरण! रात्र फुगड्यास, घागर फुंकण्यास खरं तर कमीच पडते पण महालक्ष्मीचे विसर्जन पहाटेच करावयाचे बंधन असते. गावामध्ये समज आहे की विसर्जनापूर्वी जर देवीच्या मुखवट्याला भेगा पडल्या तर आपल्या पुजेमध्ये काहीतरी चूक झाल्याचे निष्पन्न होते. याच दिवशी शाळांमध्ये ज्ञानाची देवता सरस्वतीचे पूजन केले जाते.

नवमीला "खड्‌गनवमी'' म्हणतात. यादिवशी घरातील शस्त्रे - अस्त्रे पुजिली जातात. हीच शस्त्रे इतिहासात विजय-पराजयाशी निगडित असायची. त्यामुळे त्यांना पुजायची प्रथा आहे. नवरात्रांमध्ये महत्त्वाचे दिवस म्हणजे पंचमी, अष्टमी आणि नवमी. प्रत्येक दिवशी एक याप्रमाणे दुर्गासप्तशतीच्या एकेका पाठाचे पठण केले जाते.

दहावा दिवस म्हणजे दसरा. पौराणिक कथांनुसार आश्विन शुद्ध प्रतिपदेपासून ते नवमीपर्यंत देवांविरुध्द राक्षसांचे युद्ध चालले होते. दहाव्यादिवशी विजया रुपी पार्वतीने विजय मिळवून काशीत प्रवेश केला म्हणून या विजयी दिवसाला "विजयादशमी'' म्हणूनही संबोधले जाते. या दिवशी शमी वृक्षाची पूजा केली जाते. रामाने रावणाशी युद्ध करून त्याचा वध केला व पांडवांनी वनवासात जाताना शमी वृक्षाच्या ढोलीत ठेवलेली शस्त्रास्त्रे परत ताब्यात घेतली म्हणून शमीच्या वृक्षाला यादिवशी महत्त्व आहे. दसरा हा साडेतीन मुहूर्तांपैकी एक आहे. म्हणूनच या दिवशी नवीन कामाचा श्रीगणेशा केला जातो. घरातील कर्ता पुरुष यावेळी सीमोल्लंघन करतो. यादिवशी स्वयंपाकात मुख्यतः पुरणपोळी करतात.

गोव्यात देवळांमध्ये नवरात्रोत्सवानिमित्त देवीसाठी सजविण्यात आलेली मखरे पाहण्यासाठी लोक दूरदूरहून येतात. अंत्रुज महालातील देवळातील मखरोत्सव तर फार प्रसिद्ध आहे. यादिवशी देवीला अशाप्रकारे सजविले जाते की जिला पाहताच वाटते ती आपल्याशीच हितगूज करते. तिचा चेहऱ्यावरचा भाव तिचे दागदागिने, फुलांपेक्षा जास्त उठावदार व बोलका असतो. देवीला मखरात बसवून झोके दिले जातात यावेळी मंत्रघोषाने सारे देऊळ मंत्रमुग्ध झालेले असते. भक्तीचा सागर गरजत असतो, त्यातील भाव उफाळत असतो, अन्‌ भक्त या संगमात कधीच न्हाऊन निघालेला असतो.

आपले सारे सण हे असेच मनाला समाधान देणारे. कितीही ताण असला तरी आईच्या भक्तीत लोक सारे विसरतात. कारण सारे वातावरण पावित्र्याचे, मांगल्याचे आणि सौख्याचे. अशा या नवरात्रीच्या निमित्ताने आपण सर्वांनाही आमच्यातर्फे नवरात्रीच्या शुभेच्छा.

"टिपऱ्या, टाळ्यांचा गजर, आहे "आई'' चा जागर, जाती - भेद विसरून एक होऊ
धुंद होऊन, फेर धरून नाचू - गाऊ, नवरात्रीही आपण जागवू ''

आजकाल या नवरात्रोत्सवाला काही प्रमाणात सार्वजनिक रूप प्राप्त झाले आहे. गुजराथी समाजात गरबा, दांडिया खेळून हा उत्सव मोठ्या जल्लोषात साजरा केला जातो. विविध जागी एकत्रित कार्यक्रम आयोजित केलेले असतात. गायक कलाकारांना आमंत्रित केले जाते अन्‌ नटनट्यांच्या उपस्थितीमुळे तर हा क्षण तरुण तरुणींच्या संस्मरणीय ठरतो.

"रंगा ढंगात, तारुण्याच्या जोशात
टिपऱ्यांच्या तालात, गरबा खेळू सारी रात.''

महाराष्ट्रात यालाच भोंडला असे संबोधले जाते. यावेळी हत्तीची आकृती मधे ठेवून मुली गोल फेर धरतात व तोंडाने पुढील गीत म्हणतात.

"अडकीत जाऊ, खिडकीत जाऊ,
खिडकीत होता बत्ता, आमचा भोंडला आत्ता''

कर्नाटकामध्ये याला " यक्षगान '' म्हटले जाते. यावेळी नाटक संवादामध्ये नाहीतर गाण्याच्या स्वरूपात सादर केले जाते. हे पाहण्यासाठी स्थानिकांपेक्षा परदेशी लोक फार येतात.

नवरात्रीतली प्रत्येक रात्र आदिशक्तीच्या पुढील नावावरुन प्रचलित आहे.

पहिली रात्र - शैलपुत्री
दुसरी रात्र - ब्रह्मचारिणी
तिसरी रात्र - चंद्रघंटा
चौथी रात्र - कुश्‍मांदा
पाचवी रात्र - स्कंदमाता
सहावी रात्र - कात्यायनी
सातवी रात्र - कालरात्री
आठवी रात्र - चामुंडा
नववी रात्र - सिध्दीदात्री

Happy Navratra to all ... coming together spiritually ... bonding together for a common cause... stenthenging relationships...

India Bagged 3 Beijing Olympic Medals Creating History

CREATING HISTORY is not an easy job. After several generations, some geniuses are born to create or rewrite history. Since the existence of the world, the phenomena has been recurring and still does. All over the world, several such geniuses have been born and made their country proud. Our country has also produced many great people who served the country in their respective fields at the international level.

Science and technology, medicine, management, politics, sports, there is a long list of great Indians. Fact is that those geniuses live among us, but we recognise them only when they do something exceptional. Sushil Kumar is one such name with whom we became familiar, only a day back. After 56 years, Sushil won a bronze in wrestling, one of the most popular games in India.

August 20, 2008, was a red letter day in India’s history as two brave sons of the country achieved the exceptional feat at the Beijing Olympics. For the first time in 112 years of Olympic history, India is on the verge of winning three medals in single edition of the multi-sports event. India’s Beijing medal count was opened by shooter Abhinav Bindra on August 11, with gold in shooting. On August 20, Sushil Kumar increased the medal count by winning a bronze in 66 kg freestyle wrestling. As the nation was celebrating the success of the India’s ace grappler Sushil, boxer Vijender Kumar guaranteed another medal for the country. Vijender entered the semi-finals by beating Ecuadorian Carlos Gongora 9-4.

Shooter Bindra won the gold in the men’s 10 metres air rifle event on August 11. Bindra won the first ever individual gold medal in Olympic history and made the whole country proud. Apart from Bindra’s home town, the whole country witnessed massive celebrations. Just few minutes after Bindra’s gold, the Central government, governments of several states and sports organisations of the country announced huge prize money for the brave shooter. Bindra’s parents were also on cloud nine. His father gifted him a Rs 200 crore hotel on winning the medal.

After Bindra’s gold on August 11, India’s hope for a medal increased with 2004 Athens Olympics silver medallist Rajyavardhan Singh Rathore. But the Indian flag-bearer could not qualify for the final of men’s double trap event. Tennis was another sport in which India was expecting a medal, but Sania Mirza pulled herself out of the women’s singles tennis event due to injury. Leander Paes and Mahesh Bhupathi also failed in men’s double tennis. Saina Nehwal also impressed all by reaching the quarter-finals of women’s badminton.

The irony remains that with a population over 4 crore we happen to bag only 3 medals in olympics and that too makes a history... so we shall be proud or pondering over the event? Why is that we come to know Abhinaw,Sushil and Vijendra only after they scored in olympics?

There are so many why circling but the point is that we hardly will remember to think and take steps to make indian feel proud as most of us will forget less than 3 weeks down the lane... Why we only give importance to one game and let go others as an orphan sports...

If there is a time to think and react its now and now only...

Human-animal bonding

Bonding with the best

The bond of faith and trust that is surprisingly stronger than that between two humans is the human-animal bonding.

Animals have made their presence and need felt time and again on human lives. Today, though one cannot call it fashion, there is a sense of pride and happiness among those who own pets.

As vet Dr SK Ray says, ‘‘Pets are quite a trend among younger generation,right from kids to college-goers,though old people also find in them a friend when alone.’’ Indeed, with parents busy with work and other issues,kids find the company of pets a relief.

More so because the pets, be it dogs, cats or even birds, respond equally. ‘‘I feel like a parent when it comes to my doggy,’’ says a teenaged Dipti, the proud owner of Britney, a pomeranian. Cats, dogs, birds or even fishes, all feel and understand human emotions and more.

‘‘It has been proved already that animals have a stronger connection with nature due to which they react before a person suffers an attack or before natural calamities like earthquakes. Physically challenged and blind people also find great mental benefits spending time with pets,’’ reminds Dr Ray.

Owning pets is beneficial to kids and teenagers who are rough in nature and undergo immense psychological change after handling pets. They become more kind and compassionate.

It has often been seen that adolescents often talk and confide their secrets to animals.Growing up with animals also helps understand nature, life processes and improves empathy and non verbal communication.

India's Abhinav Bindra bagging the country's first-ever individual gold in the Olympics

As the news of India's Abhinav Bindra bagging the country's first-ever individual gold in the Olympics came in, Chennaiites, like their countrymen in other states, shared the joy and basked in the moment of glory.

As news of Bindra's winning gold in the 10 M Air Rifle trickled in, a wave of joy and patriotism swept across the city, especially among tech-savvy youngsters, who used the Short Message Service (SMS) to spread the news.

The general content of the SMSs was patriotism as most of them read, "proud to be Indian," "Jai Hind" or "Bindra has made us proud," reflecting the mood of the nation.

SMSs started flying thick and fast, with youngsters' eager to be part of a winning moment of the 25 year-old Bindra.

The city's office-goers were preparing themselves for a busy Monday, the first day of the week when they got the pleasant news on their mobile phones.

"I screamed with joy as soon as I saw the SMS, unmindful of the fact that I was travelling in a packed compartment in the suburban train," S Sriram, a software professional, said.

"As those around stared at me strangely, I broke the news to them and saw a lot of smiles in the compartment," he said.

For some, the news was like an oasis in a desert as the medal-starved Indian contingent was failing to live up to the expectations of a billion Indians since the start of the games.

"It's a great feeling. I hope this win inspires the others also, as we have pinned lot of hopes on Sania Mirza and others like Saina Nehwal," sports enthusiast and homoeopath, S Lakshmi, said.

As I read in NDTV.com

Freinds Reunited

Today there are means and ways that we friends can be in touch with each otheramid our tough schedule. Its through so many socialising sites like orkut, facebook, and many more..

Now we can just search for groups of friends on following parameters:
1. Find a place where you spent time at e.g. a school, workplace, university or street. This helps you to find your old and current places.
2.Places that you’ve spent time at.
place has a common name e.g. St Mary's school, we recommend you narrow down your results by location
3.If you’re not quite sure of the name of the place you're looking for, use a keyword. E.g. a university search for "Leeds" will the University of Leeds and Leeds Metropolitan University

So what are you waiting for ..go and find your friends online

Two killed in bomb blast in north Kolkata

I am just afraid its going to take more bad scenario in coming days... Its Indian independence days approaching and so are the terror activists sick deeds.

The bomb blast in north Kolkata cost 2 lives and many injured is raising hundreds of question and routing an unknown terror in life of the citizens.

Kolkata (PTI): Two persons were killed and seven others injured in a bomb explosion in Chitpur area in north Kolkata on Sunday, police said.

The blast occurred at Sarbamangala Ghat when some rag pickers were rummaging through the garbage for plastic bags, they said, adding the bomb was hidden under the heap of garbage.

The injured were rushed to nearby hospital.

Primary investigations by the North Port police under which the area falls, revealed that the bombs were crude in nature.

Leadership just few steps away

Becoming the leader of a project, group or business is very thrilling. You get to make the decisions, help more people, earn more pay and have more fun. The technology described in this article outlines exactly how you can do this.

"THE K-R-C TRIANGLE"

"The points are K for KNOWLEDGE, R for RESPONSIBILITY and C for CONTROL."

"It is difficult to be responsible for something or control something unless you have KNOWLEDGE of it."

"It is folly to try to control something or even know something without RESPONSIBILITY."

"It is hard to fully know something or be responsible for something over which you have no CONTROL, otherwise the result can be an overwhelm."

"Little by little one can make anything go right by

"INCREASING KNOWLEDGE . . . ,"

"INCREASING RESPONSIBILITY . . . ,"

"INCREASING CONTROL . . . ."

"If one sorts out any situation one finds oneself in on this basis, he will generally succeed."

"By inching up each corner of the KRC triangle bit by bit, ignoring the losses and making the wins firm, a being at length discovers his power and command of life." -- L. Ron Hubbard

Few easy steps:
1. Decide on the group or project that you want lead. If you are not yet a part of that activity, take a small position in that group or project.

2. Increase your knowledge: Learn more about the activity than anyone. Do more research than anyone. Figure out more innovative solutions than anyone.

3. Increase your responsibility: Be a great supporter to the current leader. Volunteer to do extra work and take on extra duties with no pay. Consider the success of the project or group to be your personal responsibility.

4. Control: Invest more time and interest in the activity than anyone else. Take control of every aspect of the project or group, when the opportunity presents itself.

5. Losses: Do not dwell on any failures, regrets or mistakes you encounter. Fix them, when possible, but otherwise, ignore them.

6. Wins: Focus on your successes each day. Write them down, think about them and talk about them. Make them a permanent part of your life.

7. Because you have the most knowledge and responsibility for the success of the project, an opportunity to take control of the project or group will eventually appear. When this happens, do not hesitate. Take the reins!

How to Be a True Friend to the World

Who has the power to be your greatest enemy? Bad bosses or bad employees? Rotten neighbors? Terrorists? Unfriendly drivers on the freeway?

Actually, none of them.

Your greatest potential enemy is you.

No one can ruin your life like you can. No one can pull the plug on your career as effectively as you. No one can wreck your marriage like you.

When you criticize yourself or hate yourself, you become your own worst enemy.

In a book called "Self Analysis," L. Ron Hubbard writes,

"Probably the most neglected friend you have is you. And yet every man, before he can be a true friend to the world, must first become a friend to himself."

When you have a high opinion of yourself, you are less afraid. You have confidence. You can make progress.

As a good friend to yourself, you stop doubting yourself. You like yourself. You expect you will succeed.

When times get tough, you can rely on yourself. When the whole world seems to oppose you, you will have at least one supporter. Even when your body stops working, you will still have a loyal friend with you.

To become a true friend to yourself, first set a goal to become your own best friend.

With your goal in mind, you can then change a few attitudes. For example, if you beat yourself up for something you did wrong in the past, knock it off. You did what you thought was right at the time. Forgive yourself, decide to never do it again and move on.

If you criticize yourself, maybe someone made you believe these criticisms. Stop agreeing with this person.

At least be fair to yourself. For every critical thought you have about yourself, balance the scales with a positive thought. Why not compliment yourself from time to time?

Be kind to yourself. Buy yourself a gift. Pat yourself on the back.

If you don't like yourself, you may not have many friends. How can you expect people to like you if you don't like you?

Yet as soon you are a true friend to yourself, you will find it easy to have many friendships and become a true friend to the world.

People light oil lamps while paying tribute to victims of Bangalore and Ahmedabad blasts, in Bhopal.

People light oil lamps while paying tribute to victims of Bangalore and Ahmedabad blasts, in Bhopal.

Together we stand in such time reflect our unity... Its one message that the people of Bhopal has taken initiative to tell the world and the terrorists that you are no where near to the internal relationship of us Indian to be shattered with their ill deeds.

We are standing together in the loss of all brothers and sisters in Bangalore and Ahmedabad...

The government should understand this and instead of the politics during such happenings they should be taking harsh measures on how to put a break on terrorist activities which are loud after the series of bomb blasts in two cities killing more than 50 peoples and injuring more that 100 of citizens.

I voice to the government to take the harsh measures without them we won't be able to send the right message to the world and terrorism...

Together we stand

We need to show the world that we stand together on this day to show the terrorists that you can not hit on the love and realtionship of Indians' what so ever terrorists may try. The people are praying and stand to the peoples of bangalore and ahmedabad in their loss.

The series of bomblasts that shattered peace of common peoples in INDIA.. The Bangalore 7 and Ahemdabad 21 killing 50 peoples and injuring more than 100...

The Series Bomb Blast Ahmedabad Revised :21 blasts, more than 50 dead

The number of blasts that rocked Ahmedabad on Saturday evening was revised to 21 on Sunday, with more bombs and explosives being recovered near Bangalore and in Ahmedabad and Surat. Police said SIMI hand was suspected in the Gujarat attacks.

Union Home Minister Shivraj Patil was summoned by Prime Minister Manmohan Singh on Sunday and asked to provide a detailed brief on the bomb blasts which struck over two days in Bangalore and Ahmedabad, leaving more than 50 dead and above 200 injured. Manmohan Singh, who also met National Security Advisor M K Narayanan apart from top officials of the Home Ministry, was scheduled to visit Ahmedabad on Monday along with Patil and Congress president Sonia Gandhi.

States across India have been put on high alert. In communally sensitive Ahmedabad, the Army staged flag marches while the Centre promised all help to the Narendra Modi Government. The Centre is planning to call a meeting of DGPs of all states soon, said Home Secretary Madhukar Gupta, while a meeting of chief ministers may also be on the cards.

An activist of outlawed outfit SIMI, identified as Abdul Halim, was said to have been picked up in Delhi in connection with the Ahmedabad blasts following a tip-off by the Gujarat Police. But a Delhi Police spokesman denied any knowledge of the arrest.

Sources said as many as 100 people had been detained in Ahmedabad in raids conducted overnight. Among those picked up was Abdul Halim Maulavi, who was accused in 2003-04 of sending 33 youths from Ahmedabad to Pakistan for terrorist training. “Halim has been arrested in connection with an old case, though we may get some leads from his interrogation in the present blasts,” said a senior official.

In Surat, a live bomb was defused near a hospital while two cars were found laden with explosives. One of the cars was seized from Punagam area on the outskirts of Surat city. Powder material, gelatin sticks and shrapnel were recovered from the car bearing the number plate GJ-6-CD 3569. Vadodara Police Commissioner Rakesh Asthana said the registration number was fake.

Police located another car with explosives at Heerabagh locality of Surat, Police Commissioner R M S Brar said, while a live bomb was found near Nupur hospital in New Citylight area of Surat.

In Ahmedabad, police defused a live bomb found lying in a garbage can in Amraiwadi area. Officials said preliminary investigations revealed that ammonium nitrate was used as an explosive material, while LPG cylinders were used to increase the impact of the blast at Civil Hospital. While initially it was suspected that a suicide bomber carried out the hospital blast, police have ruled this out saying initial investigations showed the bomb was kept in a car at the trauma centre.

Joint Commissioner of Police (Crime Branch) Ashish Bhatia said the investigations had been handed over to the Crime Branch.

The Army conducted flag marches in the sensitive Madhupura and Asarva areas of Ahmedabad. “As a precautionary measure, the Army has been called out,” said Additional Commissioner of Police Mohan Jha.

The two days of mayhem, which saw more than 25 explosions in Bangalore and Ahmedabad, have brought further embarrassment for Union Home Minister Shivraj Patil, who has been heavily criticised for not doing enough to prevent terrorist attacks.

There have been at least 13 major terror strikes, starting from the attempt to storm the disputed structure in Ayodhya in July 2005, in his tenure. In none of these incidents, which includes such deadly attacks as the one on the local trains in Mumbai in 2006 and at a busy market place in Delhi in 2005, has any perpetrator been brought to justice.

Before meeting the Prime Minister, Patil met senior officials at his residence where information that had so far emerged from the two incidents was analysed as well as preventive measures that needed to be taken.

Details emerging from investigations in the Bangalore blasts suggest that the terror groups are aiming to maximise the damage. Sources said about 2 kg of ammonium nitrate was used in each of the explosives in Bangalore, while an unexploded device was found in a cement casing. This was done probably to intensify the explosions, though ironically they may have helped reduce the impact.

The use of circuit boards in the blasts in Bangalore, unlike timer devices, also indicated that the terrorists were trying to innovate and keep the investigators confused.

The time is really come for the government and peoples to be more careful and on alert on responsibilities. I really feel that the terrorist are making a fool of our security systems and laughing at us and giving warning on what worse they can do...

Above is the news as i went to read NDTV.COM news ....

7 blasts rock Bangalore; two killed, 70 wounded

It has been more hurting as the news is coming...

The blast has once again proven that we and our government need to work out something together... these kinds of activities leave us in great despair but time to react and let the terrorist know that we are not going to be any inch down to fight them back... they need not be happy on their ill deed that happened today... strong measures need to be taken if there is a time to do it ... its now only...

According to Bangalore Police Commissioner, Shankar Bidari, seven blasts rocked Bangalore.

The blasts took place at the Madiwala bus depot, Mysore road, Adugudi, Adugudi, Koramangla, Vittal Mallaya road, Langford Town and Richmond Town. The blasts took place within a span of 60 minutes. (Map: Bangalore blasts sites)

"In all these cases they have created the blast using timer devices," Bangalore Commissioner of Police Shankar Bidari told reporters at the site of one of the blasts.

"Explosives have also been used, in quantity equal to one or two grenades."

The police sources also said that these terror attacks bear the hallmarks of Bangladesh outfit HuJi.

Some IT firms, as well as schools, colleges, malls and cinemas closed after news of the blasts broke. Phone lines were jammed.

"I was on my way to office when we heard a noise," witness Arun Daniel told a news channel. "It sounded like a cracker. The traffic was blocked, everyone was running around. It was not a severe blast."

A TV channel showed a small shopping stall in Bangalore with broken windows and its concrete floors broken in pieces. Rubble littered another site.

M R Pujar, additional police commissioner for Bangalore said "crude explosives" had been used. "There were seven low-intensity explosions," he said. "Some of them were in crowded areas."

Bomb disposal squads have reached the blasts sites.

According to IB sources, SIMI and LeT may be behind the Bangalore blasts and they could be retaliatory in nature.

Union Home Secretary Madhukar Gupta has said that, "we are in the initial stages of the investigation. We are in constant touch with the state government. We hope to have a detailed report by evening.

The injured have been admitted to the St Johns Hospital in Bangalore.

As I read it in TimesOf India

Major breakthrough in Bangalore blast case

The Karnataka government on Wednesday claimed a major breakthrough in identifying the gang behind the bomb blasts that rocked churches at three places in the state, including Bangalore during the last one month.

State Home Minister Mallikharjun Kharge disclosed in Bangalore that the suspected gang belonged to a sect called Deendar Channabasaveshwara Siddiqui, but declined to elaborate on its whereabouts as the credentials of the organisation were being investigated by the Corps of Detectives and the state police.

"Investigations so far have revealed that the blasts in Karnataka as well as in neighbouring Andhra Pradesh were found to be the handiwork of this gang. Identical explosives were used in all the cases, except in the Hubli church," Kharge claimed. The explosives had gelatine detonators fitted with a timer device.

Asked whether the police was able to establish the sect's links with Pakistan's Inter Services Intelligence, Kharge replied in the negative. "Raids and all-out searches are on to trace the origins of the sect and its antecedents," the minister asserted.

Meanwhile, the city police have formally arrested Ibrahim, the sole survivor of Sunday night's van explosion that took place an hour before a crude bomb blast rocked the St Peter's church in a city suburb. His two accomplices, Siddique and Zakir, died in the blast.

Ibrahim, who sustained serious injuries in the incident, is undergoing treatment at a city hospital. The police had informed him of his arrest in the wake of incriminating material found in his house, which was raided by the CoD earlier in the day.

The raid revealed that Ibrahim is employed as an accountant with a private firm. A personal computer, some books and pamphlets were seized. The CoD found files containing anti-Christian literature in the PC.

In a related development, state Chief Minister S M Krishna and AP Chief Minister N Chandrababu Naidu exchanged notes on the ongoing investigation into the spate of bomb blasts in churches, which have shaken the Christian community. As in Karnataka, there were three attacks on churches in AP.

Krishna sought the help of the Andhra police in pursuing leads on the antecedents of Ibrahim, whose family hails from Vijayawada. Following a tip-off from the state police, the Andhra police raided several places in Vijayawada.

Krishna also spoke to Union Home Minister L K Advani on Wednesday morning. "He briefed Advani on the ongoing investigations," said a senior official. The Chief Minister is leaving for Delhi on Thursday to appraise the Centre as well as the Congress high command of the ruling Congress, as Party President Sonia Gandhi had taken a serious note of the attacks on churches in Karnataka of late.

As read in Fakir chands article on rediff...

5 dead, 50 injured in ISKCON temple bomb blast

Bangalore Bomb Blast, 6 blasts rock Bangalore, Two killed, 20 injured, Bomb Blast In Bangalore, Bangalore News

Imphal: At least five people were killed and 50 others, including five American and three French nationals, injured when a powerful bomb exploded in the complex of International Society for Krishna Consciousness (ISKCON) on Wednesday evening when the shrine was teeming with Janmasthami devotees.

The toll might go up because some of those who suffered injuries were in critical condition, sources in the Regional Institute of Medical Science and Hospital said.

Hospital sources said three French and five American nationals were among those who sustained splinter injuries in the blast, which took place at around 7 p.m. Earlier reports had spoken about injury to only one foreigner.

Several important persons, including chief priest of the ISKCON'S Damodar Das, were among those who were hit by splinters of the bomb, which was reportedly hurled at the Tulihal airport area in Imphal West district of Manipur by some unidentified people.

No individual or organisation has claimed responsibility for the explosions, official sources said.

Manipur Chief Minister O Ibobi Singh visited the hospital and strongly condemned the incident.

Official sources said an investigation would be ordered to find out how insurgents or militants infiltrated the state capital complex in spite of heavy security deployment.

The spot where the bomb exploded falls under high security zone in the state capital, sources said, adding the area was also under the surveillance of security forces...


One woman has been reportedly killed and about 15 injured in six blasts that rocked the southern city of Bangalore today (July 25). The first blast took place at around 1:30 pm at the Madivala checkpost in the city, while the second blast has been reported from Mysore road.

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The ARC Triangle is the keystone of living associations

The Ultimate Marriage Tool

Affinity, Reality and Communication (ARC)
As with all of your relationships, your marriage succeeds or fails based on ARC. The more you communicate, the more you agree on things, and the greater your affinity for your spouse, the better your marriage. If you do not communicate, do not agree and do not like each other, the marriage is doomed.
"Marriages fall apart simply because of a failure of communication, because of a failure of reality and affinity." -- L. Ron Hubbard

Young lovers believe, "Our love is so strong, it will make our marriage last forever." Of course, if affinity is all they have, sooner or later, the lack of agreement or poor communication ruins the relationship.

For example, Julie and Jeff meet at a coffee shop one night, fall madly in love and get married. When apart, they can't think of anything but each other. When together, they can't keep their hands off each other. Neither have experienced so much affinity, so they get married.

But their reality point suffers. Julie doesn't agree with Jeff's decision to start a plumbing shop. She would rather he became an accountant. Jeff doesn't agree with Julie's urge to socialize. He'd rather she stayed at home.

To compensate, they decide to not communicate, "Let's not talk about those things right now. All that matters is that we will love each other forever." Of course, by not communicating about their disagreements, their love/affinity begins to dwindle.

Julie and Jeff stop holding hands as often. Sometimes they ignore each other at home. They keep secrets from each other. They argue about little things, like where to eat dinner, who should clean the house and which type of cat food is best.

The little things become bigger things: choices of friends, money, sex and so on. The arguments become fights. Jeff storms out and stays away for a few nights. Julie moves back with her parents. The marriage dies.

As another example, Bill and Diana know how to use the ARC Triangle. When they first meet at work, they feel the same incredible feeling of affinity toward each other. Love songs, sunsets and hugs become amazing experiences for both of them.

But as they begin to plan their life together, Bill and Diana take the time to bring their communication and reality up to the same level as their affinity point. They say things like:

"Instead of going to a movie tonight, why don't we talk about our goals. Maybe we can agree on a future together."

"If we were to stay together, we'd have to agree on how we would spend our time together. I like to spend time with my old friends. What do you think?"

"I need to tell you something I did wrong and really regret, but we agreed to not have secrets. Can I tell you now?"

While they might experience some glitches in their relationship, the strength of their affinity AND reality AND communication is stronger than any problems they encounter. Bill and Diana get married and stay married for decades, based on all three points of the ARC Triangle.

Recommendations

You can improve your marriage, or even save a bad marriage, by improving your ARC.

1. Write down how you can improve your communication with your spouse.

2. Write down how you can reach more agreements with your spouse.

3. Write down how you can increase your affinity for your spouse.

4. Take the easiest task and do it today.

5. Do the rest of the tasks and continue these steps until your ARC with your spouse is higher and your marriage is better than ever!

To read more, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/arc1.htm

Take Advantage of Your Opportunities

Right now, you can make a decision that will make you more successful. Right now, you can take a step that will move you closer to your goals. Right now, you can change something about your life that will make you healthier and happier. However, if you find it hard to make decisions or take action, you miss these opportunities.

What opportunities have you missed? How much did your indecision cost you?

Indecision costs companies millions when they fail to decide or fail to act. An opportunity comes and goes while management sits on its hands. For example, IBM could have controlled the personal computer market if it had acted on Bill Gates' offer to handle their computer operating software for them. Barnes and Noble was the world's biggest bookseller until Amazon.com took over. By the time Barnes and Noble started selling books on the Internet, Amazon.com had taken the number one spot.

When you as an individual fail to make a decision or fail to act, you can also ruin your success or happiness. For example, you could have started a business when you were in your twenties. You could have formed a partnership with a very successful person. You could have made better decisions regarding your ex-spouse.

You have probably seen big opportunities, knew they were big opportunities, and failed to act on them.

In fact, you probably have one or more opportunities in front of you now. So what makes you hesitate?

So go for it...
remember "Inaction and indecision in the present is because of fear of consequences of the future." -- L. Ron Hubbard

Because you are afraid of certain consequences, you do not act or do not decide. You are afraid of what might happen. You can see this principle at work with the following exercise.

Five Tips for Conquering Your Fear of Consequences

1. Write down an opportunity that is available to you right now.

2. Write down the decision that is difficult to make or the action that is difficult to take.

3. Write down the consequences you might be afraid of.

4. Of these consequences, identify your biggest fear or fears.

5. Take action to resolve this fear or fears.

and please please for your sake dont bother what others are going to think about your step...

Best of Luck ... go ahead and grab the opportunity before it fades away with time...

Success Happiness Freedom

While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions
Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us
Between stimulus and response is our greatest power - the freedom to choose
Happiness can be defined, in part at least, as the fruit of the desire and ability to sacrifice what we want now for what we want eventually
I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.
Sow an act...reap a habit; Sow a habit...reap a character; Sow a character...reap a destiny
Everyone experiences tough times, it is a measure of your determination and dedication how you deal with them and how you can come through them
If you are going through hell, keep going
Never, never, never give up
To build may have to be the slow and laborious task of years. To destroy can be the thoughtless act of a single day
Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be”

The Indian and the Cricket bond is immortal... We indians are so carried away with the emotions attached with the very sport...

Indian relations with France, US

I was just reading news articles online and found this article worth sharing here...

The visit of the French President, Jacques Chirac, to India was a relatively low-key affair, as the chatterati did not pay much attention to it. The forthcoming visit of US President George W Bush looms much larger in the pundits' imagination, partly because of the huge buildup of expectations about nuclear cooperation. Alas, in the quaint Indianism used by sportswriters, the Americans are merely 'flattering to deceive'.

American diplomats and non-proliferation Cold Warriors are running circles around their Indian counterparts -- seducing them with faint praise -- and so I am glad to note that a number of scientists and administrators have said that the July 18, 2005 accord amounts to a massive sell-out of Indian interests under pressure. Strategic analysts who opposed the deal from the beginning -- such as Brahma Chellaney -- should feel vindicated.

That Obscure Object of Desire: Nuclear Energy

In this context, the French offer of nuclear fuel and reactors -- under IAEA safeguards -- amounts to a useful Plan B for India. France has an advanced nuclear power industry of its own, which supplies a good fraction of the country's needs, and they most probably have more up-to-date designs than the Americans. The latter have been handicapped by negative public opinion after Three Mile Island, and have not built new civilian reactors for decades.

In any case, having a second source is a major factor in limiting supplier power. It is the potential for American supplier monopoly and therefore veto-power over India's nuclear future that has worried Indian analysts. The prospect of France -- and possibly Japan, with its own advanced nuclear power industry -- bidding for India's business would greatly enhance India's own buyer power vis-�-vis American arm-twisting.

As usual, India is inept at exerting its leverage. For instance, in response to American pressure (Ambassador Mulford's dire threats) India should have announced that it was rethinking Air-India's big order of aircraft to Boeing, and re-opened negotiations with Airbus. This would have brought the US Trade Representative running to Delhi ('airdashed' in Indian journalese), and would have silenced the non-proliferation ayatollahs at Foggy Bottom.

India, France sign 9 agreements

It is worth noting that American commercial interests -- notably Westinghouse -- had been in the forefront of American approval of $5 billion worth of nuclear power plant sales to China, which has been a consistent proliferators and flouter of international norms. I read recently that Westinghouse had been sold to Toshiba of Japan, and I wonder what effect that has on things. What are Toshiba's (and Japan, Inc.'s) thoughts on selling nuclear material to China with which Japan's relations are, to put it mildly, tenuous? And more to the point, how keen is Toshiba on selling power plants to India?

Apart from the nuclear deal, it is worthwhile for India in general to have a good relationship with France, which is prone to act as a gadfly, often indulging in knee-jerk anti-Americanism. India should play off the Americans against the French (and Europeans in general) as both are keen on the billion-person Indian market. India can wrest concessions from both.

Neither America nor France is particularly India's bosom buddy, but that they are both jockeying for position in support of their national interest. This is a clich�, but it is not clear that Indian negotiators have internalised this.

Why is India giving France the cold shoulder?

For instance, in the current furore over Mittal Steel's proposed takeover of French rival Arcelor, European chauvinism and racism has come to the fore -- for instance note Arcelor chief Guy Dolle sniffing that his steel was 'perfume', while Mittal's was 'eau de cologne'. Excuse me, I thought steel was steel was steel. Perfume? Surely he jests!

What are the roots of the tension between America and France? A few months ago, Americans were up in arms against France, renaming 'French fries' as 'Freedom fries' and so forth, over something so trivial that they have (and I have) now forgotten what the fuss was all about. And French condescension towards parvenu, uncultured Americans is legendary.

Bernand-Henri Levy, the French author, in his recent book American Vertigo takes a look at this question -- and he acknowledges explicitly that he is following in the footsteps of his celebrated compatriot Alexis de Tocqueville who wrote, 170 years ago, one of the most penetrating analyses ever of what makes American society tick. Levy believes that part of the reason for this animosity is that both nations believe in a sort of 'manifest destiny' -- that they are uniquely qualified to lead the world to a new vision of egalite, liberte, fraternite in one case and 'democracy' in the other.

Of course, we all know that these fine sentiments do not always jive with action on the ground. The French were keen imperialists, and the Americans have always preferred ruthless military dictatorships over mere democracies when it comes to choosing allies. Levy calls himself an 'anti-anti-American' meaning that he opposes the reflexive anti-Americanism endemic in Europe, which perspective he believes opposes everything that is actually good in America.

The Indo-US nuclear tango

Levy asserts that in fact it is the French Right that hates America, not the French Left. Coming from the former leftist, this may have credence. According to Levy, the French Right believes in a mythology of homogeneity, of blood and race and color, and of that as the basis of nationality. America, a nation that luxuriates in the diversity of its population, is clearly the very antithesis of this belief, and apparently that is the thing that sticks in the craw for the French Right: it repudiates their fundamental beliefs.

Of course, India shares the element of diversity with America, in a manner reminiscent of Walt Whitman in Leaves of Grass: 'I am large, I contain multitudes.' And the Lord in the Bhagavad Gita, XI:5:

Pasyay may Partha roopani shatasho'tha sahasrasha:

Nanavidhani divyani nanavarna krtani cha |

Arjuna, behold presently in hundreds and thousands

My multifarious divine forms, of diverse colors and shapes.

India is the ultimate in heterogeneity, a mixture of people and ideas that somehow, out of this diversity -- and despite the active attempts of its current ruling class to, well, divide and rule -- has always been a nation and a civilisation. And despite the best efforts of its rulers to destroy the nation by destroying its millennia-old cultural roots, the idea of India survives.

The George Bush interview

Neither the old culture of Europe, as embodied in the idea of France, or the brash new culture of America, is an exact analog of India's culture. They may complement each other: India needs to work with each of them and gain whatever it can from both. India has been generous with its cultural gifts to Europe and now America, and it is time to call in the favours. It was after all, a Frenchman, Voltaire, who said, memorably, the following:

'I am convinced that everything has come down to us from the banks of the Ganges, astronomy, astrology, metempsychosis'

Realationship- Who choses who

I have been troubled by this question time and again... Do we chose relationship or realtionship choses us... cant say... We happen to bond with some stranger whom we never thought to meet in life and we fail to stand realtionship with people with whom we know for last several years... So what is that makes relationships live...

The part that relationships we are born with are the one we dont have choice with or is it true for all relationship that we human fall in our entire life span... Do we chose with whom we should be hangout or does the relationship has that power of choice...

To stop been in dilemna what I do is accept the realtionship as it is rather than giving it a fight and moulding it as I like it... There are times when we are hapless and there are time when we give a fight back to hold some relations... So exactly who decides is still a question whose answer might come to me someday till then singing the song "Jo Bhi Pyaar Se Mila Hum Usi Ke Ho Liye..."

Relationship-Desination or Journey

It sometimes confuses we humans that what we actually desire for... is the achievement of the desired is the what we actually wished or is it the journey...

Relationship is not what we relish for a single moment rather we reap the ecstasy of been together for a long span... We happen to get in relation with some and failed with others but does that means end for the relationship which the two persons shared before getting into a relationship for a lifetime...

We happen to love but do we marry the same person... Its not have happened for most of the peoples due to various reasons. Some might have fallen in-between for social issues and some for religious and some for misunderstanding and few for finding that two were not perfect for each other...

But is the commitment to the relationship comes only from socially known bondage or is it from soul too...

We feel broken if we fail to marry the person we love but we forget that we have a beautiful memories of all the journey the two has come across in the process...

what i mean to say is that there is a lot more than just achieving...renunciation also works wonder sometimes... try it...

Beauty of been together

We all happen to need someone close to share our feelings. We are thats why called as social aniamals... Its the emotions that we human take it that long to be remebered long after the existence of the entities that made that very relationship...