Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Monday, June 15, 2009

Art of living is art of giving

Art of living is art of gifting:Relationship Phoenix : Relationsh never dies...
To master the art of living you must be ready to give... even the saint believe that true happiness comes with renunciation.

Its not actually that hard to give up something that we have to someone else but believe me it gives you a lot happiness within when you see the person you bestowed your thing is happy and enjoying.

Its not what you should gift its just the matter of choice to whom you are gifting. Its the choice of the person and the choice of thing that will make him/her happy irrespective of the nature or the price of the gift.

every single act of love, kindness and generosity will multiply and return to you many times over which you can feel every time you do the mentioned activity.

True giving is without expecting anything in return, like the love of a mother. A mother does and gifts materialistic and im-materialistic things without expecting anything from us.. and you know you can see the happiness on her face when the child plays and enjoy the gift.

Enjoy gifting.. happy reading...

Friday, May 29, 2009

Emotional Intelligence and Relationship Building

The best things in life – success, happiness, love – depend on our ability to create and maintain great relationships. Most of us do a good job with relationships at the start, only to stumble down the road. Why do relationships develop such challenging problems?

Oftentimes, relationship problems are due to a breakdown in the skills of emotional intelligence. Fortunately, it’s never too late to develop these skills and raise your emotional intelligence abilities. Once you’ve learned the five key emotional intelligence skills, you’ll be able to create and sustain secure, successful, long-lasting relationships.

Many people put their best foot forward in a new work setting or when looking to attract a mate, but stumble while trying to maintain their relationships over the long term. That’s because keeping a relationship healthy and fulfilling requires a unique skill set that many of us don’t have. This skill set is known as emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, control, and effectively communicate our own emotions, and to recognize the emotions of other people. When our emotional intelligence skills are well developed, we have a solid emotional foundation that helps us build strong relationships and communicate clearly.


The skills of emotional intelligence help you:
>>Build rewarding, lasting relationships
>>Stay calm and focused, regardless of the circumstances
>>Understand your own motivations, feelings, and needs
>>Recognize the difference between damaging and helpful communication
>>Accurately “read” other people
>>Defuse arguments and repair wounded feelings
>>Find more playfulness and joy in your relationships
>>Transform conflict into an opportunity for building trust

Emotions are the building blocks of each relationship in our lives, and the power of those emotions cannot be overlooked. Emotions override our thoughts and profoundly influence our behavior – often without our awareness.

Most people seek relationship advice to find answers to problems they believe are responsible for their conflicts—without realizing there are more fundamental issues at the core of those problems. They are attempting to heal the surface symptoms of their dysfunctional relationships, without examining the real emotional issues that are simmering beneath. But until those fundamental issues are addressed, the problems and conflicts will continue.

Enjoy reading more on Emotional Intelligence on helpguide.org

Happy reading....

Monday, February 09, 2009

Valentines Day Past Present and Future

Relationship Phoenix-Relations Never dies
Valentine's Day or Saint Valentine's Day is a holiday celebrated on February 14 by many people throughout the world. In the West, it is the traditional day on which lovers express their love for each other by sending Valentine's cards, presenting flowers, or offering confectionery. The holiday is named after two among the numerous Early Christian martyrs named Valentine. The day became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.

There are many alternative and more stories to that but the love birds don't mind to have one more reason to spend one more day together with some liberty to roam in the favorite places whole day.

I it needs some special day to say what you feel within... I feel the day you speak your heart should be the special one and not a day where you plan to speak your heart. I don't feel things like these have a schedule... or do they have...

I also wonder how politics has found its way in to valentines day... means is this some sort of way to make money for the gift shops, a day to make politics count the most, a day for social dogma to strain out their happenings or what ???

Relationship Phoenix-Relations Never dies In between all this people find their own sweet time to show love and respect to the relationship they are in is the beauty of the day. I wish you all happy valentines day and if this is the day we are going to have great time together then let everyday be a valentines day....

Thursday, May 01, 2008









The Indian and the Cricket bond is immortal... We indians are so carried away with the emotions attached with the very sport...

Friday, March 21, 2008

Indian relations with France, US

I was just reading news articles online and found this article worth sharing here...

The visit of the French President, Jacques Chirac, to India was a relatively low-key affair, as the chatterati did not pay much attention to it. The forthcoming visit of US President George W Bush looms much larger in the pundits' imagination, partly because of the huge buildup of expectations about nuclear cooperation. Alas, in the quaint Indianism used by sportswriters, the Americans are merely 'flattering to deceive'.

American diplomats and non-proliferation Cold Warriors are running circles around their Indian counterparts -- seducing them with faint praise -- and so I am glad to note that a number of scientists and administrators have said that the July 18, 2005 accord amounts to a massive sell-out of Indian interests under pressure. Strategic analysts who opposed the deal from the beginning -- such as Brahma Chellaney -- should feel vindicated.

That Obscure Object of Desire: Nuclear Energy

In this context, the French offer of nuclear fuel and reactors -- under IAEA safeguards -- amounts to a useful Plan B for India. France has an advanced nuclear power industry of its own, which supplies a good fraction of the country's needs, and they most probably have more up-to-date designs than the Americans. The latter have been handicapped by negative public opinion after Three Mile Island, and have not built new civilian reactors for decades.

In any case, having a second source is a major factor in limiting supplier power. It is the potential for American supplier monopoly and therefore veto-power over India's nuclear future that has worried Indian analysts. The prospect of France -- and possibly Japan, with its own advanced nuclear power industry -- bidding for India's business would greatly enhance India's own buyer power vis-�-vis American arm-twisting.

As usual, India is inept at exerting its leverage. For instance, in response to American pressure (Ambassador Mulford's dire threats) India should have announced that it was rethinking Air-India's big order of aircraft to Boeing, and re-opened negotiations with Airbus. This would have brought the US Trade Representative running to Delhi ('airdashed' in Indian journalese), and would have silenced the non-proliferation ayatollahs at Foggy Bottom.

India, France sign 9 agreements

It is worth noting that American commercial interests -- notably Westinghouse -- had been in the forefront of American approval of $5 billion worth of nuclear power plant sales to China, which has been a consistent proliferators and flouter of international norms. I read recently that Westinghouse had been sold to Toshiba of Japan, and I wonder what effect that has on things. What are Toshiba's (and Japan, Inc.'s) thoughts on selling nuclear material to China with which Japan's relations are, to put it mildly, tenuous? And more to the point, how keen is Toshiba on selling power plants to India?

Apart from the nuclear deal, it is worthwhile for India in general to have a good relationship with France, which is prone to act as a gadfly, often indulging in knee-jerk anti-Americanism. India should play off the Americans against the French (and Europeans in general) as both are keen on the billion-person Indian market. India can wrest concessions from both.

Neither America nor France is particularly India's bosom buddy, but that they are both jockeying for position in support of their national interest. This is a clich�, but it is not clear that Indian negotiators have internalised this.

Why is India giving France the cold shoulder?


For instance, in the current furore over Mittal Steel's proposed takeover of French rival Arcelor, European chauvinism and racism has come to the fore -- for instance note Arcelor chief Guy Dolle sniffing that his steel was 'perfume', while Mittal's was 'eau de cologne'. Excuse me, I thought steel was steel was steel. Perfume? Surely he jests!

What are the roots of the tension between America and France? A few months ago, Americans were up in arms against France, renaming 'French fries' as 'Freedom fries' and so forth, over something so trivial that they have (and I have) now forgotten what the fuss was all about. And French condescension towards parvenu, uncultured Americans is legendary.

Bernand-Henri Levy, the French author, in his recent book American Vertigo takes a look at this question -- and he acknowledges explicitly that he is following in the footsteps of his celebrated compatriot Alexis de Tocqueville who wrote, 170 years ago, one of the most penetrating analyses ever of what makes American society tick. Levy believes that part of the reason for this animosity is that both nations believe in a sort of 'manifest destiny' -- that they are uniquely qualified to lead the world to a new vision of egalite, liberte, fraternite in one case and 'democracy' in the other.

Of course, we all know that these fine sentiments do not always jive with action on the ground. The French were keen imperialists, and the Americans have always preferred ruthless military dictatorships over mere democracies when it comes to choosing allies. Levy calls himself an 'anti-anti-American' meaning that he opposes the reflexive anti-Americanism endemic in Europe, which perspective he believes opposes everything that is actually good in America.

The Indo-US nuclear tango

Levy asserts that in fact it is the French Right that hates America, not the French Left. Coming from the former leftist, this may have credence. According to Levy, the French Right believes in a mythology of homogeneity, of blood and race and color, and of that as the basis of nationality. America, a nation that luxuriates in the diversity of its population, is clearly the very antithesis of this belief, and apparently that is the thing that sticks in the craw for the French Right: it repudiates their fundamental beliefs.

Of course, India shares the element of diversity with America, in a manner reminiscent of Walt Whitman in Leaves of Grass: 'I am large, I contain multitudes.' And the Lord in the Bhagavad Gita, XI:5:

Pasyay may Partha roopani shatasho'tha sahasrasha:

Nanavidhani divyani nanavarna krtani cha |

Arjuna, behold presently in hundreds and thousands

My multifarious divine forms, of diverse colors and shapes.

India is the ultimate in heterogeneity, a mixture of people and ideas that somehow, out of this diversity -- and despite the active attempts of its current ruling class to, well, divide and rule -- has always been a nation and a civilisation. And despite the best efforts of its rulers to destroy the nation by destroying its millennia-old cultural roots, the idea of India survives.

The George Bush interview


Neither the old culture of Europe, as embodied in the idea of France, or the brash new culture of America, is an exact analog of India's culture. They may complement each other: India needs to work with each of them and gain whatever it can from both. India has been generous with its cultural gifts to Europe and now America, and it is time to call in the favours. It was after all, a Frenchman, Voltaire, who said, memorably, the following:

'I am convinced that everything has come down to us from the banks of the Ganges, astronomy, astrology, metempsychosis'

Saturday, March 15, 2008

Realationship- Who choses who

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I have been troubled by this question time and again... Do we chose relationship or realtionship choses us... cant say... We happen to bond with some stranger whom we never thought to meet in life and we fail to stand realtionship with people with whom we know for last several years... So what is that makes relationships live...

The part that relationships we are born with are the one we dont have choice with or is it true for all relationship that we human fall in our entire life span... Do we chose with whom we should be hangout or does the relationship has that power of choice...

To stop been in dilemna what I do is accept the realtionship as it is rather than giving it a fight and moulding it as I like it... There are times when we are hapless and there are time when we give a fight back to hold some relations... So exactly who decides is still a question whose answer might come to me someday till then singing the song "Jo Bhi Pyaar Se Mila Hum Usi Ke Ho Liye..."

Sunday, March 09, 2008

Relationship-Desination or Journey

Amritanshu : Relationship Phoenix
It sometimes confuses we humans that what we actually desire for... is the achievement of the desired is the what we actually wished or is it the journey...

Relationship is not what we relish for a single moment rather we reap the ecstasy of been together for a long span... We happen to get in relation with some and failed with others but does that means end for the relationship which the two persons shared before getting into a relationship for a lifetime...

We happen to love but do we marry the same person... Its not have happened for most of the peoples due to various reasons. Some might have fallen in-between for social issues and some for religious and some for misunderstanding and few for finding that two were not perfect for each other...

But is the commitment to the relationship comes only from socially known bondage or is it from soul too...

We feel broken if we fail to marry the person we love but we forget that we have a beautiful memories of all the journey the two has come across in the process...

what i mean to say is that there is a lot more than just achieving...renunciation also works wonder sometimes... try it...

Monday, January 07, 2008

Beauty of been together

We all happen to need someone close to share our feelings. We are thats why called as social aniamals... Its the emotions that we human take it that long to be remebered long after the existence of the entities that made that very relationship...

Sunday, October 28, 2007

On the other side

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We happen to say that girls never understand boys and the same can be heard from the galz side... so are we two genders two different languages as per the myth that men are from mars and women are from venus....

I feel that we are not aliens to this planet... but what is that makes us feel like that we are from different lingua domain....

I think we both fail to see what we are trying to speak... often we are speaking the same thing still arguing that who is right...

We are perhaps not a good listener... if we just happen to stop just beeing our side of the story it will always be that hard to understand but if we just take a step ahead and stand on the other side we can see what the words from that direction were popped to meant...

if we just take one step ahead....

Monday, September 03, 2007

Small Pain In My Chest

Amritanshu : Relationship Phoenix
The soldier boy was sitting calmly underneath that tree.
As I approached it, I could see him beckoning to me.
The battle had been long and hard and lasted through the night
And scores of figures on the ground lay still by morning's light.

"I wonder if you'd help me, sir", he smiled as best he could.
"A sip of water on this morn would surely do me good.
We fought all day and fought all night with scarcely any rest -
A sip of water for I have a small pain in my chest."

As I looked at him, I could see the large stain on his shirt
All reddish-brown from his warm blood mixed in with Asian dirt.
"Not much", said he. "I count myself more lucky than the rest.
They're all gone while I just have a small pain in my chest."

"Must be fatigue", he weakly smiled. "I must be getting old.
I see the sun is shining bright and yet I'm feeling cold.
We climbed the hill, two hundred strong, but as we cleared the crest,
The night exploded and I felt this small pain in my chest."

"I looked around to get some aid - the only things I found
Were big, deep craters in the earth - bodies on the ground.
I kept on firing at them, sir. I tried to do my best,
But finally sat down with this small pain in my chest."

"I'm grateful, sir", he whispered, as I handed my canteen
And smiled a smile that was, I think, the brightest that I've seen.
"Seems silly that a man my size so full of vim and zest,
Could find himself defeated by a small pain in his chest."

"What would my wife be thinking of her man so strong and grown,
If she could see me sitting here, too weak to stand alone?
Could my mother have imagined, as she held me to her breast,
That I'd be sitting HERE one day with this pain in my chest?"

"Can it be getting dark so soon?" He winced up at the sun.
"It's growing dim and I thought that the day had just begun.
I think, before I travel on, I'll get a little rest ..........
And, quietly, the boy died from that small pain in his chest.

I don't recall what happened then. I think I must have cried;
I put my arms around him and I pulled him to my side
And, as I held him to me, I could feel our wounds were pressed
The large one in my heart against the small one in his chest.

by Michael Mack

Sunday, August 19, 2007

The Magical Words


We happen to encounter situations in relations that are not planned or expected and we happen to say and do things that are not meant... but the fact stands that it occurred... so what we do ?

do we realize and accept situation and try to do the needful to patch it up or just leave it on time or the next person to forget the incidence....

No, I m not saying that its bad happened because of us but can not we discuss this with a cool mind.... Ego ???? come on is this ego is what we have to live life and keep on loosing relations to make survive our ego.... I don't see any sanity in doing so....

Why don't we use the magical words that always works... yes there are few very very special words like SORRY, Thanks ! Love you, Miss You.... and so on... but we hesitate to use them quite often just because of our EGO !!

We be rather be honest to ourselves rather than feeding the EGO !!

time is something that waits for nothing nor does it gives second chance to everyone... you are lucky if you have got one... but trust me on my words when i say that be careful with the time it does not give a second chance not even to thank someone or to say sorry....

So my friend before its too late go and say the magical words and see the magic happening...it works to strengthen relations.....

Saturday, July 07, 2007

India Pak Relationship

India and Pakistan, two nations united by history but divided by destiny, has travelled a long way in an attempt to bring peace to the highly volatile valley. Peace is still a "far sighted dream" which every Kashmiri nurtures in their minds. "An eye for an eye and tooth for a tooth" policy has transformed Kashmir valley, once an epitome of romance and beauty to a land with painful tales of human suffering and mayhem. The picturesque scenes of blissful beauty blessed by the heavens is stained by human beings in a battle to defend or expand their territorial ambitions. "WAR" brings with it death and misery. Victory at the cost of life, or defeat again at the cost of life.

Himalayan Affairs attempts to look at the various issues concerning the Himalayan region ranging from terrorist hit regions of Jammu and Kashmir to the insurgency torn Northeastern states of India. We cover issues like India Pakistan relations, India Pakistan peace initiatives, Anti-terrorist campaigns in India, India Pakistan border situation, Solutions of India-Pakistan dispute, Facts about Jammu and Kashmir, Misery of people in Northeast India, Solutions for Jammu and Kashmir dispute with Pakistan.

Let's join hands with the people of these highly disturbed regions of Jammu and Kashmir and Northeastern states in their battle for peaceful existence.

An appeal to all...

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Gifts Strengthen relationships

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Gifts can be good at eliciting emotions and even smoothing the rough spots, but don't make the mistake of giving the wrong kind. You'll go broke and not accomplish what you intended. Since women's emotions are so powerful, realize that all gifts to women have a soothing effect and "goodwill time frame" that is proportional to the emotion evoked. This has nothing to do with the value or utility of the gift, believe me. Whether you're in the early stages of a relationship or have been married ten years, never give expensive gifts, agree to extensive home remodeling that you don't particularly want, expensive trips, etc. in the hope that it will improve her feelings for you.

If you do, you'll be paying for the expenditure long after your girlfriend or wife has stopped smiling at you for what you did. Instead, give little nothing gifts like a funny card, or a stuffed animal holding flowers, and say "I was thinking of you today." Do this at unexpected times.

A week later (or maybe even the next day), the $12 stuffed Dalmatian with the heart-shaped spots will be forgotten, and your woman's attitude will probably (and understandably) be "What have you done for me lately?" But guess what? The same thing will happen a week after you agree to pay for her eight-year-old's private school tuition, which is a $120,000 tab over ten years. You do the math. The exception to this rule is if you decide to give an expensive, useful gift to a woman who needs it and who has been exceptionally good to you already.

Few men do this. Men usually give presents, take women to expensive restaurants, etc. in the hope that the recipient will be grateful. THIS DOES NOT WORK. Expensive gifts should always be unexpected rewards. They should never be attempted inducements.

There are things that we consider not on the priority, but it does makes a difference and build memories to cherish lifelong relationship....

Monday, June 25, 2007

What women say they want and what they actually do want are two different things


Men need to be keenly aware of this and act accordingly. The crap that women claim they want in the personals ads is exactly the kind of thing that would have the same women running for the nearest exit out of boredom if the men actually provided it.

Women want to feel attraction for someone, and attraction doesn't come from finding a man who is sensitive, or caring, or likes long walks on the beach, cats, and candlelight dinners, has a college education or a good job. Attraction isn't a choice. Attraction comes from that little shiver of anticipation of not knowing what's coming next, of not being able to pigeonhole the man she's with into any one category, of being just a little bit off-balance and not in total control.

that's why said that what women say they want and what they actually do want are two different things...

So, enjoy women for what they are, and don't imagine them to be something they aren't. It may sound harsh or negative, but real women are seldom like what we see in movies written by male screenwriters or read about in novels written by male authors.

The cute waitress where you eat lunch may visually remind you of Meg Ryan (or whoever) in the movie where she played a waitress, but don't for one second imagine the real-life waitress to be as intelligent or interesting as the writers who gave Meg her lines. Flirt with the waitress and let her presence make your lunch more pleasant, but don't start going there every day and turn her into some fantasy of yours ("One-itis").

At best, you'll waste a bunch of better opportunities mooning around her at lunchtime, while she smiles at you but otherwise blows you off. At worst, she'll eventually accept your advances, and (since you were fixated on only her and had no other women to compare her to) you'll end up married before you figure out that aside from being nice to look at (for now), there isn't much else you really enjoy about her....

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

Different definitions of integrity

Men have integrity to their word, but because of the heightened sensitivity as explained above, women have integrity to their feelings.

Women base their actions on how they feel at the time. This means that if something no longer "feels" right, they won't do it, period. It infuriates most men when a woman "flakes" on them. ("Flaking" is the term that men who study this sort of thing use to describe when a woman who has eagerly made plans with them doesn't show up, or calls at the last minute to cancel because her girlfriend needs consoling etc. Roughly speaking, a woman's tendency to flake is proportional to her options and inversely proportional to her age, although I did meet one 38-year-old single mother of two with this habit.) Understand that the need to be true to one's feelings is an extremely powerful force with women. Look at the dominant theme in all romance novels: The woman is "swept away" by emotions too powerful to be denied, and has an affair when everyone knows she shouldn't. Another example is the adage "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." Even the former First Lady (according to the Secret Service) regularly threw things (lamps, etc.) at her husband when angry. Can you imagine a man doing this, instead of saying "Next"? The idea is ludicrous.

If you're a man, you probably do what you've agreed to do (help someone move, etc.) because you said you would. However, you wouldn't go through with your plans to help your acquaintance move if it had suddenly become a felony with a mandatory 10-year prison sentence to do so, would you? Of course not. Ten years in prison trumps a promise to move furniture. Well, that is the kind of aversion that women have to doing things that no longer "feel" right. Later I'll explain how to make this "integrity to feelings" work to your benefit.

Think about the above.... more to come in next blog to ponder upon...

Monday, June 18, 2007

Understanding Women- An Approach


What follows are general truths, in the same vein as the statement "Women are shorter and have much less upper body strength than men." Don't annoy me with emails telling me how you know a woman who's 6'5" and benches 400. I don't care.

Never forget this. Stop thinking of women as screwed-up men and start realizing that their minds were built from an entirely different blueprint.

Just as a hawk can discern details at distances that a man needs a ten-power scope to see, a woman is many times more capable than a man at reading the emotions of other women. (Women may be equally capable at reading men's emotions, but have never seen a need to.) Walk into a large party with a woman. You, the man, will see a bunch of people in a room, talking in groups of two to five. You'll see where the food and bar is, and notice any exceptionally attractive women in the room. That's it. Your companion, however, will be able to tell you which woman is angry, which one is lonely, which is happy, which is upset, which ones feel self-conscious, which ones are jealous, and (probably) which ones are having affairs and with which men. Your female companion will be able to accurately tell you these things within ten seconds of entering the room.

This ability comes at a price: Women are many times more sensitive than men to emotional pain. Imagine a man whose skin was so sensitive that ordinary contact was painful. Whenever someone shook his hand in greeting or clapped him on the shoulder in congratulations, it would feel to him as if boiling water were being thrown on his flesh. Now turn that disparity in physical sensitivity into emotional sensitivity and you'll get a good picture of a fundamental difference between men and women.

Men seldom if ever need to know what a group of other women is thinking, so they usually experience a woman's heightened sensitivity from the negative perspective. They hurt their wives' feelings without realizing it (just like the handshake in the above hypothetical) and then are baffled when their women are upset with them, often for days or weeks at a time, for seemingly no reason.

This is a fine advice I found worth sharing to you all...
This section I got has series to discuss... Will keep you updated on this...

Friday, June 15, 2007

Self Confidence Solution


Many people are involved in relationships that are strained, whether husband/wife, parent/child, or just ordinary friendships. If someone wanted to go about improving the relationship, what incentives would you suggest they use as a means of fortifying their resolve to succeed?

Utilizing incentives and motivational tools provides the inner stamina needed to maintain our willpower, and thus achieve our ultimate goals.

To all the questions... I will say SELF CONFIDENCE...

Self confidence is an attitude which allows individuals to have positive yet realistic views of themselves and their situations. Self-confident people trust their own abilities, have a general sense of control in their lives, and believe that within reason, they will be able to do what they wish, plan and expect. Having self-confidence does not mean that individuals will be able to do everything. Self-confident people have expectations that are realistic. Even when some of their expectations are not met, they continue to be positive and to accept themselves...

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Mentoring Relationship

We all happen to think why the relationship has turned out this complex when we can not figure out the reason for happening so... there are reasons and clashes but are they enough to bring a loving relation to this stage...

I think we missed quite a few things that would have made us skip a situation of a broken relationship of our life.

When you show up for every meeting with your loved one and strive to make things work out you send your loved one a strong message that you care and that he or she is worth caring about... so just be there

“My parents lecture me all the time. Why would I want my mentor to be the same way? I have the best mentor in the program, but sometimes he tries too hard to be a mentor instead of just being himself. What I mean is that he thinks he always has to share some wisdom or advice, when sometimes I would rather just kick it and joke around.”

Of course, when your loved one comes to you for help or advice, it is appropriate to help them develop solutions. It's also okay to check in with them if you suspect that they are struggling with something. They just don't want non-stop advice. So, take the pressure off of yourself and just enjoy your loved one's company.
be a friend, not an all-knowing authority

The best that you can do is to lead by example. By becoming a mentor, you've already modeled the most important thing a human being can do: caring about another. Here are some other ways you can be a positive role model for your loved one:

• Keep your word: Call when you say you will. Do what you say you will. Be there when you say you will;
• Return phone calls and e-mails promptly;
• Have a positive outlook;
• If your program has group sessions, participate fully;
• If you enter a competitive activity with your loved one, keep it in perspective and by all means do not cheat (or even fudge a little) to help your loved one win, get a better place in line at an event, etc.; and
• Let your loved one see you going out of your way to help others.

I think it works...Be a role model...

Few of what is concurred by California Governor’s Mentoring Partnership and Los Angeles Youth Mentoring Connection also...

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Monday, May 28, 2007

Building Memories to live and love...

Building Memories

Grandparents and grandchildren alike enjoy building memories together. Whether it is baking cookies, playing games or reading books together, children will always remember the quality times they shared with their grandparents. And while some grandparents are not able to spend much time with their grandchildren, they can still form lasting memories during their visits. Kesler suggests grandparents begin a tradition with their grandchildren, whether it's a particular game or activity, during visits. He gives the example of coloring Easter eggs together each year, having the children help set the table whenever they come to visit, having a special place for the children to sit at the dinner table, or staying up late to eat popcorn and talk. This continuity will help solidify lasting memories.

This space in a article made me think why not we happen to live together to have time with our parents and our parents too could find a life in there last days....

http://familyfirst.net/


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Friday, April 20, 2007

The Friendship Charisma

I happen to be a friend of a small boy name sahil. Sahil was a 5 year kid and was residing to the next door house from my street. Every evening he use to come to me with the new bike toys models his father bought him last evening from the mall. Though we have a age difference of more than 20 years still he found it to be comfortable to share it like friends and me too use to admire and tease him like a friend of his age.
It was the present of sahil in my life that make me feel as a child whenever he is around and the feelings of this relationship can only be lived and cannot be depicted into characters....