Who has the power to be your greatest enemy? Bad bosses or bad employees? Rotten neighbors? Terrorists? Unfriendly drivers on the freeway?
Actually, none of them.
Your greatest potential enemy is you.
No one can ruin your life like you can. No one can pull the plug on your career as effectively as you. No one can wreck your marriage like you.
When you criticize yourself or hate yourself, you become your own worst enemy.
In a book called "Self Analysis," L. Ron Hubbard writes,
"Probably the most neglected friend you have is you. And yet every man, before he can be a true friend to the world, must first become a friend to himself."
When you have a high opinion of yourself, you are less afraid. You have confidence. You can make progress.
As a good friend to yourself, you stop doubting yourself. You like yourself. You expect you will succeed.
When times get tough, you can rely on yourself. When the whole world seems to oppose you, you will have at least one supporter. Even when your body stops working, you will still have a loyal friend with you.
To become a true friend to yourself, first set a goal to become your own best friend.
With your goal in mind, you can then change a few attitudes. For example, if you beat yourself up for something you did wrong in the past, knock it off. You did what you thought was right at the time. Forgive yourself, decide to never do it again and move on.
If you criticize yourself, maybe someone made you believe these criticisms. Stop agreeing with this person.
At least be fair to yourself. For every critical thought you have about yourself, balance the scales with a positive thought. Why not compliment yourself from time to time?
Be kind to yourself. Buy yourself a gift. Pat yourself on the back.
If you don't like yourself, you may not have many friends. How can you expect people to like you if you don't like you?
Yet as soon you are a true friend to yourself, you will find it easy to have many friendships and become a true friend to the world.
1 comment:
Does anyone live in a subdivision where there are several people who ignore the subdivision rules?
I do. No one is supposed to have those ugly fences on the top of their pools, and it seems that everyone in the sub with a pool has one of those. My neighbor has one, and I have to look at that hideous thing every time I look out my window. Then there is my other neighbor who has three dogs. The maximum number of dogs is supposed to be two. I wouldn't mind the three, but two of them are pit bulls who viciously snarl and growl and act like they are going to eat my dog when they are outside. Even the owners scream at them to stop. It is very unnerving. Then one of the board members is delinquent by 3 years on the dues because she has decided she doesn't need to pay since she is on the board. I can't take the neighbors around here. I was looking for a forum to vent about the jerks around here and I came across this site called http://urajerk.com and I sent all of those idiots on the board and all my lovely neighbors with the ugly pools an anonymous card. LOL I loved it. I know it sounds stupid but I feel better. He he he.
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