Life has often been compared to a game. We are never told the rules, unfortunately, nor given any instructions about how to play. We simply begin at "go" and make our way around the board, hoping we play it right. We don't exactly know the objective of playing, nor what it means to actually win.
That is what Ten Rules for Being Human is all about. These are the guidelines to playing the game we call life, but they are also much more than that. These Rules will provide you with a basic spiritual primer for what it means to be a human. They are universal truths that everyone inherently knows but has forgotten somewhere along the way. They form the foundation of how we can live a fulfilling, meaningful life.
Each Rule presents its own challenge, which in turn provides certain lessons we all need to learn. Every person on the planet has his or her own set of lessons to learn that are separate and unique from everyone else's, and these lessons, as you will see in Rule Four, will reappear until they are mastered.
The Ten Rules for Being Human are not magic, nor do they promise ten easy steps to serenity. They offer no quick fix for emotional or spiritual ailments, and they are not fast track secrets to enlightenment. Their only purpose is to give you a road map to follow as you travel your path of spiritual growth.
These Rules are not mandates, but rather guidelines as to how to play the game. There is nothing you absolutely must do. I hope this book will help you to become more aware of them. By learning the valuable lessons and wisdom they offer, your journey on the Earth might just a bit easier.
by Chérie Carter-Scott, Ph.D
Wednesday, January 05, 2011
Sunday, December 19, 2010
Wisdom of Wolves
Just wanted to share this...
Twyman Towery, Ph.D., a professional speaker and consultant who studied the lessons of leadership in nature, has captured them in a book for Simple Truths called Wisdom of Wolves. Twyman shares the parallels between the wolf pack and human behavior...in business life, family life, and personal life.
The attitude of the wolf can be summed up simply: it is a constant visualization of success. The collective wisdom of wolves has been progressively programmed into their genetic makeup throughout the centuries. Wolves have mastered the technique of focusing their energies toward the activities that will lead to the accomplishment of their goals.
Wolves do not aimlessly run around their intended victims, yipping and yapping. They have a strategic plan and execute it through constant communication. When the moment of truth arrives, each understands his role and understands exactly what the pack expects of him.
The wolf does not depend on luck. The cohesion, teamwork and training of the pack determines whether the pack lives or dies.
There is a silly maxim in some organizations that everyone, to be a valuable member, must aspire to be the leader. This is personified by the misguided CEO who says he only hires people who say they want to take his job. Evidently, this is supposed to ensure that the person has ambition, courage, spunk, honesty, drive - whatever. In reality, it is simply a contrived situation, with the interviewee jumping through the boss's hoops. It sends warnings of competition and one-upsmanship throughout the organization rather than signals of cooperation, teamwork and loyalty.
Everyone does not strive to be the leader in the wolf pack. Some are consummate hunters or caregivers or jokesters, but each seems to gravitate to the role he does best. This is not to say there are not challenges to authority, position and status - there are. But each wolf's role begins emerging from playtime as a pup and refines itself through the rest of its years. The wolf's attitude is always based upon the question, "What is best for the pack?" This is in marked contrast to us humans, who will often sabotage our organizations, families or businesses, if we do not get what we want.
Wolves are seldom truly threatened by other animals. By constantly engaging their senses and skills, they are practically unassailable. They are masters of planning for the moment of opportunity to present itself, and when it does, they are ready to act.
Because of training, preparation, planning, communication and a preference for action, the wolf's expectation is always to be victorious. While in actuality this is true only 10 percent of the time or less, the wolf's attitude is always that success will come-and it does.
by Twyman Towery
Twyman Towery, Ph.D., a professional speaker and consultant who studied the lessons of leadership in nature, has captured them in a book for Simple Truths called Wisdom of Wolves. Twyman shares the parallels between the wolf pack and human behavior...in business life, family life, and personal life.
The attitude of the wolf can be summed up simply: it is a constant visualization of success. The collective wisdom of wolves has been progressively programmed into their genetic makeup throughout the centuries. Wolves have mastered the technique of focusing their energies toward the activities that will lead to the accomplishment of their goals.
Wolves do not aimlessly run around their intended victims, yipping and yapping. They have a strategic plan and execute it through constant communication. When the moment of truth arrives, each understands his role and understands exactly what the pack expects of him.
The wolf does not depend on luck. The cohesion, teamwork and training of the pack determines whether the pack lives or dies.
There is a silly maxim in some organizations that everyone, to be a valuable member, must aspire to be the leader. This is personified by the misguided CEO who says he only hires people who say they want to take his job. Evidently, this is supposed to ensure that the person has ambition, courage, spunk, honesty, drive - whatever. In reality, it is simply a contrived situation, with the interviewee jumping through the boss's hoops. It sends warnings of competition and one-upsmanship throughout the organization rather than signals of cooperation, teamwork and loyalty.
Everyone does not strive to be the leader in the wolf pack. Some are consummate hunters or caregivers or jokesters, but each seems to gravitate to the role he does best. This is not to say there are not challenges to authority, position and status - there are. But each wolf's role begins emerging from playtime as a pup and refines itself through the rest of its years. The wolf's attitude is always based upon the question, "What is best for the pack?" This is in marked contrast to us humans, who will often sabotage our organizations, families or businesses, if we do not get what we want.
Wolves are seldom truly threatened by other animals. By constantly engaging their senses and skills, they are practically unassailable. They are masters of planning for the moment of opportunity to present itself, and when it does, they are ready to act.
Because of training, preparation, planning, communication and a preference for action, the wolf's expectation is always to be victorious. While in actuality this is true only 10 percent of the time or less, the wolf's attitude is always that success will come-and it does.
by Twyman Towery
Thursday, October 21, 2010
carzy time
I have been away quite long .. didn't felt like writing for weeks. Life has been damn slow and its just the "crazy time" again that will pass tomorrow not if today.
So, what goes to humans when he/she is going through this crazy time period. They are struggling with the happening just happening cuz its not going their way. Lot of pressure, lot of fighting back to change things but the things just becomes more worst then what they were earlier.
There are few things that we can not fight back. The best way to defeat them is to accept them.
So, what goes to humans when he/she is going through this crazy time period. They are struggling with the happening just happening cuz its not going their way. Lot of pressure, lot of fighting back to change things but the things just becomes more worst then what they were earlier.
There are few things that we can not fight back. The best way to defeat them is to accept them.
Wednesday, August 04, 2010
You won't understand
I am certain that we all happen to say it to peoples around us in relations,"You don't understand". There are times when its really hard to prove oneself to others, even to one we love and with them for a long time. The only part matters that what they mean to us.
We have to take initiative even though we know its difficult to make someone understand something which is true for us but to them its a vague action. Even for simple things the situation becomes so tough that we give up and say you don't understand and move ahead but its a decision that we make either accepting the defiance or losing the patience to take the pain to make them believe in our thoughts.
It's also a matter that to them our step or activity is not a true thing to take place but not everyone is perfect. So one just need to put a point that even his actions and steps are wrong but he/she wants the other person to be on his side and see things through his/her perspective which will let them understand the situation in a better way. None of us like to be wrong but we fail to make an attempt to make that understandable to the persons we love.
So, do take initiative to explain yourself even you know he/she wont understand.
We have to take initiative even though we know its difficult to make someone understand something which is true for us but to them its a vague action. Even for simple things the situation becomes so tough that we give up and say you don't understand and move ahead but its a decision that we make either accepting the defiance or losing the patience to take the pain to make them believe in our thoughts.
It's also a matter that to them our step or activity is not a true thing to take place but not everyone is perfect. So one just need to put a point that even his actions and steps are wrong but he/she wants the other person to be on his side and see things through his/her perspective which will let them understand the situation in a better way. None of us like to be wrong but we fail to make an attempt to make that understandable to the persons we love.
So, do take initiative to explain yourself even you know he/she wont understand.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Fathers Day : How special is it for you
I just didn't wanted to miss this auspicious day to wish my father and al fathers a happy fathers day for been with us since our birth and all of the hard times when we need them the most.
As a friend to play when we dont have a language to communicate but he knows what we are saying and manages to communicate back too. A person yo count on for everything, a friend, a guardian and all what we wish to have in our lives and also things that we didn't wished are fulfilled by him in all his possible ways.
We learn to learn all the survival ways , the first teacher of us in all ways, a friend to listen all our issues and concerns, happiness and sorrows, advicing best with his sheer experince expecting nothing in return.
Thank you father for been there for all times. Friends and brothers do wish your father not only on this day but in the days amid.
Happy Fathers day to all Fathers for been with us when we needed them the most and always.
As a friend to play when we dont have a language to communicate but he knows what we are saying and manages to communicate back too. A person yo count on for everything, a friend, a guardian and all what we wish to have in our lives and also things that we didn't wished are fulfilled by him in all his possible ways.
We learn to learn all the survival ways , the first teacher of us in all ways, a friend to listen all our issues and concerns, happiness and sorrows, advicing best with his sheer experince expecting nothing in return.
Thank you father for been there for all times. Friends and brothers do wish your father not only on this day but in the days amid.
Happy Fathers day to all Fathers for been with us when we needed them the most and always.
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Decisions with realtionship
We take decisions now and then in our daily life. Few small one's and few big one's. There are decisions that are personally focused but there are more which we think as personal decision which tends not to be the one. There are decisions as such which just don't involve us as an individual rather there are more persons attached to it directly or indirectly.
We tend to take decisions not for ourselves but for others too may it be your friend, parents, kids, spouse or anyone. The point is that not all decisions make them happy. There are things that we fathom on parameters which are in-important for the one or they feel like that. We happen to measure things our way but we need to be double sure of the parameters we chose to come to a decision. We should always be sure that the pain our loved ones are going because of the "decision" we are making thinking better of them really worth that pain or not. We ignore this point and we will left our loved ones hurt.
I would rather chose a discussion on the same before making a decision as there are perspective we may ignore or consider not important when in the matter of fact they are equally important. We are not sharing things and that is where we fail to make our first decision that I as an individual can make better decision. One may be correct but the probability to be so increases when we have a different opinion on the same.
So be sharing and be a good decision maker cuz that is what will make you a better individual and more trustworthy amongst your loved ones. Trust others first to share and feel the difference in what your decision entails on.
Happy decision making peoples...
We tend to take decisions not for ourselves but for others too may it be your friend, parents, kids, spouse or anyone. The point is that not all decisions make them happy. There are things that we fathom on parameters which are in-important for the one or they feel like that. We happen to measure things our way but we need to be double sure of the parameters we chose to come to a decision. We should always be sure that the pain our loved ones are going because of the "decision" we are making thinking better of them really worth that pain or not. We ignore this point and we will left our loved ones hurt.
I would rather chose a discussion on the same before making a decision as there are perspective we may ignore or consider not important when in the matter of fact they are equally important. We are not sharing things and that is where we fail to make our first decision that I as an individual can make better decision. One may be correct but the probability to be so increases when we have a different opinion on the same.
So be sharing and be a good decision maker cuz that is what will make you a better individual and more trustworthy amongst your loved ones. Trust others first to share and feel the difference in what your decision entails on.
Happy decision making peoples...
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Excerpt from The 100/0 Principle, by Al Ritter
Just felt sharing this part with you all,
What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It's The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.
Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.
The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.
STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.
At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.
Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!
Principle Paradox
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It's The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.
Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.
The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.
STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.
At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.
Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!
Principle Paradox
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Challenges are what make life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.
I was going through one of the article by Dr. Y.L.R.Murthy and felt to share with you all that how important it is to have a perspective and a viosion in life beyond what we fail to think on. Happy reading....
Have Breakfast Or Be Breakfast
Who sells the largest number of cameras in India ? Your guess is likely to be Sony, Canon or Nikon.
The answer is - None of the above ! The winner is NOKIA whose main line of business in India is not cameras at all, but Cell Phones – the reason being, that cameras bundled with cellphones are outselling stand alone cameras. Now, what prevents the cell-phone from replacing the camera outright ? Nothing at all. One can only hope the Sonys and Canons are taking note of this fact !
Try this. Who is the biggest in music business in India ?
You think it is HMV Sa-Re-Ga-Ma ?
Sorry. The answer is Airtel. By selling Caller Tunes ( that play for 30 seconds ) Airtel makes more than what music companies like HMV make by selling music albums (that run for hours).
Incidentally Airtel is not in music business. It is the mobile service provider with the largest subscriber base in India. That sort of competitor is difficult to detect, even more difficult to beat (by the time you have identified him he has already gone past you). But if you imagine that Nokia and Bharti ( Airtel's parent ) are breathing easy you can't be farther from truth.
Nokia confessed that they all but missed the Smart Phone bus. They admit that Apple's i-Phone and Google's Android can make life difficult in future.
But you never thought that Google was a mobile company, did you ?
If these illustrations mean anything, there is a bigger game unfolding. It is not so much about mobile or music or camera or emails ?
The "Mahabharat" (the great Indian epic battle) is about "what is tomorrow's personal digital device"?
Will it be a souped up mobile or a palmtop with a phone ? All these are little wars that add up to that big battle. Hiding behind all these wars is a gem of a question –
" WHO is my competitor ? "
Once in a while, to intrigue my students I toss a question at them. I ask " What Apple did to Sony, Sony did to Kodak, explain ? " The smart ones get the answer almost immediately. Sony defined its market as Audio ( music from the famous ‘Walkman’ ). They never ever expected an IT company like Apple to encroach into their Audio market domain with the I-Pod.
Come to think of it, is it really surprising ? Apple, as a computer maker, had both Audio and Video capabilities.
So what made Sony think they won't compete on pure Audio ?
"Elementary Watson".
So also Kodak defined its business as Film Cameras, Sony defines its businesses as "Digital." In digital camera the two markets perfectly meshed. Kodak was torn between going Digital and sacrificing money on camera film, or staying with Films and getting left behind in Digital technology.
Left undecided, it lost in both. It had to. It did not ask the BIG question " WHO is my competitor for tomorrow ?"
The same was true for IBM whose mainframe revenue prevented it from seeing the PC. The same was true of Bill Gates who declared "internet is a fad !" ... and then turned around to bundle the browser with windows to bury Netscape.
The point is not who is today's competitor. Today's competitor is obvious. Tomorrow's is not.
In 2008, who was the toughest competitor to British Airways in India ? Singapore airlines ? Better still, Indian airlines ?
Maybe, but there are better answers. There are competitors that can hurt all these airlines and others not YET mentioned.
The answer is video-conferencing and telepresence services of HP and Cisco. Travel dropped due to recession. Senior IT Executives in India and abroad were compelled by their head quarters to use video-conferencing to shrink travel budget.
So much so, that the mad scramble for American visas from Indian techies was nowhere in sight in 2008. (India has a quota of something like 65,000 visas to the U.S. They were going a-begging. Blame it on recession! ).
So far so good. But to think that the airlines will be back in business post recession is something I would not bet on.
In short term yes. In long term a resounding NO.
Remember, if there is one place where Newton's law of gravity is applicable besides physics it is in electronic hardware.
Between 1977 and 1991 the prices of the now dead VCR ( grandparent of Blue-Ray disc player) crashed to one-third of its original level in India. PC's prices dropped from hundreds of thousands of rupees to tens of thousands. If this trend repeats then telepresence prices will also crash. Imagine the fate of these airlines then. As it is not many are making money. Then it will surely be R.I.P !
India has two passions. Films and cricket. The two markets were distinctly different. So were the icons. The cricket gods were Sachin and Sehwag. The filmi gods were the Khans ( Aamir, Shah Rukh Salman and the other Khans who followed suit ).
That was, when cricket was fundamentally test cricket or at best 50 over cricket. Then came IPL and the two markets collapsed into one. IPL brought cricket down to 20 overs. Suddenly an IPL match was reduced to the length of a 3 hour movie.
Cricket became film's competitor. On the eve of IPL matches movie halls ran empty. Desperate multiplex owners requisitioned the rights for screening IPL matches at movie halls to hang on to the audience. If IPL were to become the mainstay of cricket, as it is likely to be, films have to sequence their releases so as not clash with IPL matches. As far as the audience is concerned, both are what in India are called 3 hour "tamasha" (entertainment) . Cricket season might push films out of the market.
Look at the products that vanished from India in the last 20 years. When did you last see a black and white movie ? When did you last use a typewriter that had a limited memory. Then came the computer and mowed them all. Today most technologically challenged guys like me use the computer as an upgraded typewriter. Typewriters per se, are nowhere to be seen.
One last illustration. 20 years back what were Indians using to wake them up in the morning ? The answer is "alarm clock." The alarm clock was a monster made of mechanical springs. It had to be physically keyed every day to keep it running. It made so much noise by way of alarm, that it woke you up and the rest of the colony. Then came the quartz clocks which were sleeker. They were much more gentle though still quaintly called "alarms."
What do we use today for waking up in the morning ?
Our Cellphone !
An entire industry of clocks disappeared without warning - thanks to these cell phones. Big watch companies like Titan were the losers.
You never know in which bush your competitor is hiding !
On a lighter vein, who are the competitors for authors ? Joke spewing machines ? Steve Wozniak, the co-founder of Apple, himself a Pole, tagged a Polish joke telling machine to a telephone pole much to the mirth of Silicon Valley. Or will the competition be story telling robots?
The Future is scary !
The boss of an IT company once said something interesting about the animal called “Competition”
He said " Have breakfast …or…. be breakfast "!
That, sums it up really well !
Y.L.R. Moorthi
Have Breakfast Or Be Breakfast
Who sells the largest number of cameras in India ? Your guess is likely to be Sony, Canon or Nikon.
The answer is - None of the above ! The winner is NOKIA whose main line of business in India is not cameras at all, but Cell Phones – the reason being, that cameras bundled with cellphones are outselling stand alone cameras. Now, what prevents the cell-phone from replacing the camera outright ? Nothing at all. One can only hope the Sonys and Canons are taking note of this fact !
Try this. Who is the biggest in music business in India ?
You think it is HMV Sa-Re-Ga-Ma ?
Sorry. The answer is Airtel. By selling Caller Tunes ( that play for 30 seconds ) Airtel makes more than what music companies like HMV make by selling music albums (that run for hours).
Incidentally Airtel is not in music business. It is the mobile service provider with the largest subscriber base in India. That sort of competitor is difficult to detect, even more difficult to beat (by the time you have identified him he has already gone past you). But if you imagine that Nokia and Bharti ( Airtel's parent ) are breathing easy you can't be farther from truth.
Nokia confessed that they all but missed the Smart Phone bus. They admit that Apple's i-Phone and Google's Android can make life difficult in future.
But you never thought that Google was a mobile company, did you ?
If these illustrations mean anything, there is a bigger game unfolding. It is not so much about mobile or music or camera or emails ?
The "Mahabharat" (the great Indian epic battle) is about "what is tomorrow's personal digital device"?
Will it be a souped up mobile or a palmtop with a phone ? All these are little wars that add up to that big battle. Hiding behind all these wars is a gem of a question –
" WHO is my competitor ? "
Once in a while, to intrigue my students I toss a question at them. I ask " What Apple did to Sony, Sony did to Kodak, explain ? " The smart ones get the answer almost immediately. Sony defined its market as Audio ( music from the famous ‘Walkman’ ). They never ever expected an IT company like Apple to encroach into their Audio market domain with the I-Pod.
Come to think of it, is it really surprising ? Apple, as a computer maker, had both Audio and Video capabilities.
So what made Sony think they won't compete on pure Audio ?
"Elementary Watson".
So also Kodak defined its business as Film Cameras, Sony defines its businesses as "Digital." In digital camera the two markets perfectly meshed. Kodak was torn between going Digital and sacrificing money on camera film, or staying with Films and getting left behind in Digital technology.
Left undecided, it lost in both. It had to. It did not ask the BIG question " WHO is my competitor for tomorrow ?"
The same was true for IBM whose mainframe revenue prevented it from seeing the PC. The same was true of Bill Gates who declared "internet is a fad !" ... and then turned around to bundle the browser with windows to bury Netscape.
The point is not who is today's competitor. Today's competitor is obvious. Tomorrow's is not.
In 2008, who was the toughest competitor to British Airways in India ? Singapore airlines ? Better still, Indian airlines ?
Maybe, but there are better answers. There are competitors that can hurt all these airlines and others not YET mentioned.
The answer is video-conferencing and telepresence services of HP and Cisco. Travel dropped due to recession. Senior IT Executives in India and abroad were compelled by their head quarters to use video-conferencing to shrink travel budget.
So much so, that the mad scramble for American visas from Indian techies was nowhere in sight in 2008. (India has a quota of something like 65,000 visas to the U.S. They were going a-begging. Blame it on recession! ).
So far so good. But to think that the airlines will be back in business post recession is something I would not bet on.
In short term yes. In long term a resounding NO.
Remember, if there is one place where Newton's law of gravity is applicable besides physics it is in electronic hardware.
Between 1977 and 1991 the prices of the now dead VCR ( grandparent of Blue-Ray disc player) crashed to one-third of its original level in India. PC's prices dropped from hundreds of thousands of rupees to tens of thousands. If this trend repeats then telepresence prices will also crash. Imagine the fate of these airlines then. As it is not many are making money. Then it will surely be R.I.P !
India has two passions. Films and cricket. The two markets were distinctly different. So were the icons. The cricket gods were Sachin and Sehwag. The filmi gods were the Khans ( Aamir, Shah Rukh Salman and the other Khans who followed suit ).
That was, when cricket was fundamentally test cricket or at best 50 over cricket. Then came IPL and the two markets collapsed into one. IPL brought cricket down to 20 overs. Suddenly an IPL match was reduced to the length of a 3 hour movie.
Cricket became film's competitor. On the eve of IPL matches movie halls ran empty. Desperate multiplex owners requisitioned the rights for screening IPL matches at movie halls to hang on to the audience. If IPL were to become the mainstay of cricket, as it is likely to be, films have to sequence their releases so as not clash with IPL matches. As far as the audience is concerned, both are what in India are called 3 hour "tamasha" (entertainment) . Cricket season might push films out of the market.
Look at the products that vanished from India in the last 20 years. When did you last see a black and white movie ? When did you last use a typewriter that had a limited memory. Then came the computer and mowed them all. Today most technologically challenged guys like me use the computer as an upgraded typewriter. Typewriters per se, are nowhere to be seen.
One last illustration. 20 years back what were Indians using to wake them up in the morning ? The answer is "alarm clock." The alarm clock was a monster made of mechanical springs. It had to be physically keyed every day to keep it running. It made so much noise by way of alarm, that it woke you up and the rest of the colony. Then came the quartz clocks which were sleeker. They were much more gentle though still quaintly called "alarms."
What do we use today for waking up in the morning ?
Our Cellphone !
An entire industry of clocks disappeared without warning - thanks to these cell phones. Big watch companies like Titan were the losers.
You never know in which bush your competitor is hiding !
On a lighter vein, who are the competitors for authors ? Joke spewing machines ? Steve Wozniak, the co-founder of Apple, himself a Pole, tagged a Polish joke telling machine to a telephone pole much to the mirth of Silicon Valley. Or will the competition be story telling robots?
The Future is scary !
The boss of an IT company once said something interesting about the animal called “Competition”
He said " Have breakfast …or…. be breakfast "!
That, sums it up really well !
Y.L.R. Moorthi
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
I want to explore the unknown
Don’t impose on me what you know,
I want to explore the unknown
And be the source of my own discoveries.
Let the known be my liberation, not my slavery.
The world of your truth can be my limitation;
Your wisdom my negation.
Don’t instruct me; let’s walk together.
Let my richness begin where yours ends.
Show me so that I can stand
On your shoulders.
Reveal yourself so that I can be
Something different.
You believe that every human being
Can love and create.
I understand, then, your fear
When I ask you to live according to your wisdom.
You will not know who I am
By listening to yourself.
Don’t instruct me; let me be.
Your failure is that I be identical to you.
Thursday, September 03, 2009
We sometimes forget to admire things when they are around and fail to assess the true value of the relations around until they happen to be away from us. It might be an intentional or unintentional behavior to praise but its hard to make for the small loss that we just ignore.
Relations around us are always there, we never are really alone but we fail to notice this till we really happen to feel lonely. There are several ways to acknowledge if you have made the same mistake of ignorance to praise the relations around you. I know the people may not ask or is waiting for you appraisal but take my words it does matter, and it matters the most. Try thanking or saying sorry to someone near to you and just see how you make them overwhelmed with your words.
Its not that we should say Thanks when someone really did good thing or say sorry when we did something wrong to others... Sometimes these magical words simply works as always and work in a different way when we say it just like that sometime to the near and dear persons around us to tell them that its not that we may have failed to say it at the right time but its not like that we don't care...
try it once and see the magic... Thanks for reading... Happy Reading...
Relations around us are always there, we never are really alone but we fail to notice this till we really happen to feel lonely. There are several ways to acknowledge if you have made the same mistake of ignorance to praise the relations around you. I know the people may not ask or is waiting for you appraisal but take my words it does matter, and it matters the most. Try thanking or saying sorry to someone near to you and just see how you make them overwhelmed with your words.
Its not that we should say Thanks when someone really did good thing or say sorry when we did something wrong to others... Sometimes these magical words simply works as always and work in a different way when we say it just like that sometime to the near and dear persons around us to tell them that its not that we may have failed to say it at the right time but its not like that we don't care...
try it once and see the magic... Thanks for reading... Happy Reading...
Monday, June 15, 2009
Art of living is art of giving
To master the art of living you must be ready to give... even the saint believe that true happiness comes with renunciation.
Its not actually that hard to give up something that we have to someone else but believe me it gives you a lot happiness within when you see the person you bestowed your thing is happy and enjoying.
Its not what you should gift its just the matter of choice to whom you are gifting. Its the choice of the person and the choice of thing that will make him/her happy irrespective of the nature or the price of the gift.
every single act of love, kindness and generosity will multiply and return to you many times over which you can feel every time you do the mentioned activity.
True giving is without expecting anything in return, like the love of a mother. A mother does and gifts materialistic and im-materialistic things without expecting anything from us.. and you know you can see the happiness on her face when the child plays and enjoy the gift.
Enjoy gifting.. happy reading...
Friday, May 29, 2009
Emotional Intelligence and Relationship Building
The best things in life – success, happiness, love – depend on our ability to create and maintain great relationships. Most of us do a good job with relationships at the start, only to stumble down the road. Why do relationships develop such challenging problems?
Oftentimes, relationship problems are due to a breakdown in the skills of emotional intelligence. Fortunately, it’s never too late to develop these skills and raise your emotional intelligence abilities. Once you’ve learned the five key emotional intelligence skills, you’ll be able to create and sustain secure, successful, long-lasting relationships.
Many people put their best foot forward in a new work setting or when looking to attract a mate, but stumble while trying to maintain their relationships over the long term. That’s because keeping a relationship healthy and fulfilling requires a unique skill set that many of us don’t have. This skill set is known as emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, control, and effectively communicate our own emotions, and to recognize the emotions of other people. When our emotional intelligence skills are well developed, we have a solid emotional foundation that helps us build strong relationships and communicate clearly.
The skills of emotional intelligence help you:
>>Build rewarding, lasting relationships
>>Stay calm and focused, regardless of the circumstances
>>Understand your own motivations, feelings, and needs
>>Recognize the difference between damaging and helpful communication
>>Accurately “read” other people
>>Defuse arguments and repair wounded feelings
>>Find more playfulness and joy in your relationships
>>Transform conflict into an opportunity for building trust
Emotions are the building blocks of each relationship in our lives, and the power of those emotions cannot be overlooked. Emotions override our thoughts and profoundly influence our behavior – often without our awareness.
Most people seek relationship advice to find answers to problems they believe are responsible for their conflicts—without realizing there are more fundamental issues at the core of those problems. They are attempting to heal the surface symptoms of their dysfunctional relationships, without examining the real emotional issues that are simmering beneath. But until those fundamental issues are addressed, the problems and conflicts will continue.
Enjoy reading more on Emotional Intelligence on helpguide.org
Happy reading....
Oftentimes, relationship problems are due to a breakdown in the skills of emotional intelligence. Fortunately, it’s never too late to develop these skills and raise your emotional intelligence abilities. Once you’ve learned the five key emotional intelligence skills, you’ll be able to create and sustain secure, successful, long-lasting relationships.
Many people put their best foot forward in a new work setting or when looking to attract a mate, but stumble while trying to maintain their relationships over the long term. That’s because keeping a relationship healthy and fulfilling requires a unique skill set that many of us don’t have. This skill set is known as emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, control, and effectively communicate our own emotions, and to recognize the emotions of other people. When our emotional intelligence skills are well developed, we have a solid emotional foundation that helps us build strong relationships and communicate clearly.
The skills of emotional intelligence help you:
>>Build rewarding, lasting relationships
>>Stay calm and focused, regardless of the circumstances
>>Understand your own motivations, feelings, and needs
>>Recognize the difference between damaging and helpful communication
>>Accurately “read” other people
>>Defuse arguments and repair wounded feelings
>>Find more playfulness and joy in your relationships
>>Transform conflict into an opportunity for building trust
Emotions are the building blocks of each relationship in our lives, and the power of those emotions cannot be overlooked. Emotions override our thoughts and profoundly influence our behavior – often without our awareness.
Most people seek relationship advice to find answers to problems they believe are responsible for their conflicts—without realizing there are more fundamental issues at the core of those problems. They are attempting to heal the surface symptoms of their dysfunctional relationships, without examining the real emotional issues that are simmering beneath. But until those fundamental issues are addressed, the problems and conflicts will continue.
Enjoy reading more on Emotional Intelligence on helpguide.org
Happy reading....
Tuesday, April 07, 2009
Still waiting for your second chance
Just wanted to share this short story with you all...
Hi friend,
I loved reading this...
It’s another morning..
….. Again I have to go to office
Ohh, this is me… I shouted having a glance on my snap in today’s news
paper.
But what the HELL it is doing in the death column??
Strange…
One sec... Let me think, last night when I was going to bed I had a severe
pain in my chest, but I don’t remember anything after that, I think I had a
sound sleep.
Its morning now, ohh….. It’s already 10:00 AM, where is my coffee?
I will be late for office and my boss will get a chance to irritate me.
Where is everyone…??? I screamed.
“I think there is a crowed outside my room, let me check.” I said to
myself.
So many people….. Not all of them crying…
But why some of them crying…
WHAT IS THIS??? I m laying there on the floor…
“I AM HERE” … I shouted!!! No one listen.
“LOOK I AM NOT DEAD” … I screamed once again!!! No one is interested in me.
They all were looking me on the bed.
I went back to my bed room.
“Am I dead??” I asked myself.
Where is my wife, my children, my mom-DAD, my friends?
I found them in the next room, all of them were crying… still trying to
console each other.
My wife was crying… she was really looking sad.
My little kid was not sure what happened, but he was crying just coz his
mom was sad.
How can I go without saying my kid that I really love him, I really do care
of him. ??
How can I go without saying my wife that she is really most beautiful and
most caring wife in this world..??
How can I go without saying my parents that I m … just because of u ??
How can I go without telling my friends that without them perhaps I have
done most of the wrong things in my life… thanks for being there always
when I need them… and sorry for not being there when they really need me..
I can see a person standing in the corner and trying to hide his tears…
Ohh… he was once my best friend, but a small misunderstanding made us part,
and we both have strong enough ego to keep us disconnect.
I went there.. And offered him my hand, “Dear friend… I just want to say
sorry for everything, we r still best friend, please forgive me.”
No response from other side, what the hell?? He is still preserving his
ego, I am saying sorry… even then!!!
I really don’t care for such people.
But one sec…. it seems he is not able to see me!!!! He did not see my
extended hand.
My goodness… AM I REALLY DEAD???
I just sat down near ME; I was also feeling like crying…
“OHH ALMIGHTY!!!! PLEASE JUST GIVE ME FEW MORE DAYS…”
I just wasn’t to make my wife, my parents; my friends realize that how much
I love them.
My wife entered in the room, she looks beautiful.
“YOU R BEAUTIFUL” I shouted.
She didn’t hear my words, in fact she never heard these words coz I never
said this to her.
“GOD!!!!” I screamed… a little more time plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz..
I cried…
One more chance please… to hug my child, to make my mom smile just once, to
feel my dad proud on me at least for a moment, to say sorry to my friends
for everything I have not given to them, and thanks for still being in my
life….
Then I looked up and cried!!!!
I shouted….
“GOD!!!! ONE MORE CHANCE PLEASE!!!!”
"You shouted in your sleep," said my wife as she gently woke me up. "Did
you have a nightmare?"
I was sleeping….
Ohh that was just a dream….
My wife was there… she can hear me…
This is the happiest moment of my life…
I hugged her and whispered…. “U R THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CARING WIFE IN
THIS UNIVERSE…. I REALLY LOVE U DEAR”
I can’t understand the reason of the smile on her face with some tears in
her eyes, still I m happy…. :)
“THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS SECOND? CHANCE.”
So, Now it’s not late.. Forget your egos, past……….., and express your love
to others………. Be friendly…………… keep smiling and be happy for ever… or you still waiting for your second chance..........
Hi friend,
I loved reading this...
It’s another morning..
….. Again I have to go to office
Ohh, this is me… I shouted having a glance on my snap in today’s news
paper.
But what the HELL it is doing in the death column??
Strange…
One sec... Let me think, last night when I was going to bed I had a severe
pain in my chest, but I don’t remember anything after that, I think I had a
sound sleep.
Its morning now, ohh….. It’s already 10:00 AM, where is my coffee?
I will be late for office and my boss will get a chance to irritate me.
Where is everyone…??? I screamed.
“I think there is a crowed outside my room, let me check.” I said to
myself.
So many people….. Not all of them crying…
But why some of them crying…
WHAT IS THIS??? I m laying there on the floor…
“I AM HERE” … I shouted!!! No one listen.
“LOOK I AM NOT DEAD” … I screamed once again!!! No one is interested in me.
They all were looking me on the bed.
I went back to my bed room.
“Am I dead??” I asked myself.
Where is my wife, my children, my mom-DAD, my friends?
I found them in the next room, all of them were crying… still trying to
console each other.
My wife was crying… she was really looking sad.
My little kid was not sure what happened, but he was crying just coz his
mom was sad.
How can I go without saying my kid that I really love him, I really do care
of him. ??
How can I go without saying my wife that she is really most beautiful and
most caring wife in this world..??
How can I go without saying my parents that I m … just because of u ??
How can I go without telling my friends that without them perhaps I have
done most of the wrong things in my life… thanks for being there always
when I need them… and sorry for not being there when they really need me..
I can see a person standing in the corner and trying to hide his tears…
Ohh… he was once my best friend, but a small misunderstanding made us part,
and we both have strong enough ego to keep us disconnect.
I went there.. And offered him my hand, “Dear friend… I just want to say
sorry for everything, we r still best friend, please forgive me.”
No response from other side, what the hell?? He is still preserving his
ego, I am saying sorry… even then!!!
I really don’t care for such people.
But one sec…. it seems he is not able to see me!!!! He did not see my
extended hand.
My goodness… AM I REALLY DEAD???
I just sat down near ME; I was also feeling like crying…
“OHH ALMIGHTY!!!! PLEASE JUST GIVE ME FEW MORE DAYS…”
I just wasn’t to make my wife, my parents; my friends realize that how much
I love them.
My wife entered in the room, she looks beautiful.
“YOU R BEAUTIFUL” I shouted.
She didn’t hear my words, in fact she never heard these words coz I never
said this to her.
“GOD!!!!” I screamed… a little more time plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz..
I cried…
One more chance please… to hug my child, to make my mom smile just once, to
feel my dad proud on me at least for a moment, to say sorry to my friends
for everything I have not given to them, and thanks for still being in my
life….
Then I looked up and cried!!!!
I shouted….
“GOD!!!! ONE MORE CHANCE PLEASE!!!!”
"You shouted in your sleep," said my wife as she gently woke me up. "Did
you have a nightmare?"
I was sleeping….
Ohh that was just a dream….
My wife was there… she can hear me…
This is the happiest moment of my life…
I hugged her and whispered…. “U R THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CARING WIFE IN
THIS UNIVERSE…. I REALLY LOVE U DEAR”
I can’t understand the reason of the smile on her face with some tears in
her eyes, still I m happy…. :)
“THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS SECOND? CHANCE.”
So, Now it’s not late.. Forget your egos, past……….., and express your love
to others………. Be friendly…………… keep smiling and be happy for ever… or you still waiting for your second chance..........
Monday, February 09, 2009
Valentines Day Past Present and Future
Valentine's Day or Saint Valentine's Day is a holiday celebrated on February 14 by many people throughout the world. In the West, it is the traditional day on which lovers express their love for each other by sending Valentine's cards, presenting flowers, or offering confectionery. The holiday is named after two among the numerous Early Christian martyrs named Valentine. The day became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.
There are many alternative and more stories to that but the love birds don't mind to have one more reason to spend one more day together with some liberty to roam in the favorite places whole day.
I it needs some special day to say what you feel within... I feel the day you speak your heart should be the special one and not a day where you plan to speak your heart. I don't feel things like these have a schedule... or do they have...
I also wonder how politics has found its way in to valentines day... means is this some sort of way to make money for the gift shops, a day to make politics count the most, a day for social dogma to strain out their happenings or what ???
In between all this people find their own sweet time to show love and respect to the relationship they are in is the beauty of the day. I wish you all happy valentines day and if this is the day we are going to have great time together then let everyday be a valentines day....
Thursday, January 08, 2009
Satyam Ramalinga Raju and History
Today when I type satyam in my google search the results what I get really questions to all we Indians that do know only to react on situations or do we really have the gutts to stand to it... results like "Raju brings down Satyam, shakes India.." really made me think why india is a democratic country where anyone can say whatever literally whatever without giving a thought what could be its effect on the readers...
The facts remain the same that there has been such a scam undertook over a period not in a day but reactions should be monitored too.
One of my friend send me a mail today that I would like to share with you guys... have a look and think over all again...
after reading this mail first thought that came to me was that all peoples are not simply rats on the sunking ship running for their life but few are always there to stand strong and face the storm.
The facts remain the same that there has been such a scam undertook over a period not in a day but reactions should be monitored too.
One of my friend send me a mail today that I would like to share with you guys... have a look and think over all again...
Dear all of my Satyamites,
Yesterday will be a memorable day to us throughout our life. Little bit of business & human nature knowledge is forcing me to write few of my thoughts (Please ignore them if they doesn’t make any sense).
Ask yourself who is worst affected by all this mayhem. Is it u & me (employees), Govt or Satyam & Ramalingaraju ?. My conviction says that employees of any MNC are associated to that company as long as they don’t have any better option, the best thing government can do for a company is to keep itself away from it. But there was a visionary who created wealth for a nation for 20 years, the only thing that cannot be separated from Satyam for these 20 years & ahead also if Satyam remains was\is a name called “Ramalinga Raju”. Fortunately I got some 15 min of time talking to him when i was an ELTP. He’s much softer then we see him.
Imagine what would be going on in his mind when he was writing yesterday’s letter accepting all the things which he did only to save his company. All have made him scapegoat for what has happened & left the company keeping their integrity intact. He was cursed badly for putting the money of a public limited company into his family driven company but it only now clear that how he was transferrring the risk from 50,000 people to his two sons & his known-integrity.
The worst which can happen to we the employees is that we are out of our current job, jobless for time being & then again getting a job which we deserve & our families will be worried for us(as they are always). But a relatively bitter truth will be for the Raju-family who will be annoyed for ages & will be treated as miscreants by those who do not know the truth or more about Greedy investors & money market. And the truth is that he has not stolen some thousand crores rupees into his own pocket, it was a bubble he created which busted. (And every other company on earth does so, being wary of not getting trapped)
One more thing which annoys me is does a philanthropist guy deserve this disgraceful exit ? I really feel sad about the way he’s been portrait in the media. Our rustic fellows have already started comparing him with Harshad Mehta. Tell me any incident in corporate India where any chairman has dared to confess such irregularities in his own firm. And believe me it takes hell lot of guts to accept all this publicly. And as I read the news today morning it was published there that even his community members have suggested him not to tell anything and later on he can play with the Indian laws as every politician does in India. But as he mentioned it was all deep regret in his conscience which lead him to confess all this.
I am not at all saying that he’s totally innocent and unaware of what’s been going there but a person who has started a journey called Satyam 20 yrs ago with few associates and made it 4th largest IT Company in India, done all this for sake of his 50000 Satyam family members. In the end i’ll ask only one question to all of my friends,” for whom he has created this bubble, if it was he who was going bankrupt? ”
The day before all this mayhem started, we all were proud to be called as Satyamites and were wearing the Satyam tag displaying our esteem to others, and now due to a single incidence u are feeling awkward to show the same Satyam tag in public?? I don’t know about others, but still I am proud to be a SATYAMITE!!!
after reading this mail first thought that came to me was that all peoples are not simply rats on the sunking ship running for their life but few are always there to stand strong and face the storm.
Thursday, January 01, 2009
freshness to relationship
Let the bygones be bygones of 2008 and bring some freshness to your relationship.
They year 2008 would have brought some good and some bad memories but decision is yours whether you want to relish only the good ones by carrying them forward with you to cherish them your whole life forth.
Just want to make you realize let the sorrow part that bring bitterness to the relationship and make good memories count and make many more to be relished.happy new year 2009 and may it brings freshness to the relationships you have made.
They year 2008 would have brought some good and some bad memories but decision is yours whether you want to relish only the good ones by carrying them forward with you to cherish them your whole life forth.
Just want to make you realize let the sorrow part that bring bitterness to the relationship and make good memories count and make many more to be relished.happy new year 2009 and may it brings freshness to the relationships you have made.
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Any problem in the world can be solved by dancing
"Any problem in the world can be solved by dancing : By James Brown"
Going through Techcrunch.com I found one interesting post on the "First Round Capital" groups and partner companies dancing their problems away.. ha ha haaaa I loved this ...
I would like you all to see this and learn how to dance your problems away for a healthy corporate and personal relstionships. If you are dancing, you are happy and so are the people around you... happy viewing...
Going through Techcrunch.com I found one interesting post on the "First Round Capital" groups and partner companies dancing their problems away.. ha ha haaaa I loved this ...
I would like you all to see this and learn how to dance your problems away for a healthy corporate and personal relstionships. If you are dancing, you are happy and so are the people around you... happy viewing...
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Life's all about correcting mistakes
Rutali married Hitesh this day. At the end of the wedding party,
Rutali's mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook with Rs.1000 deposit amount.
Mother: 'Rutali, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life.
When there's something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in.
Write down what it's about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in.
I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with Hitesh.
When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you've had.'
Rutali shared this with Hitesh when getting home.
They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made.
This was what they did after certain time:
- 7 Feb: Rs.100, first birthday celebration for Hitesh after marriage
- 1 Mar: Rs.300, salary raise for Rutali
- 20 Mar: Rs.200, vacation trip to Bali
- 15 Apr: Rs.2000, Rutali got pregnant
- 1 Jun: Rs.1000, Hitesh got promoted
..... and so on...
However, after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things. They didn't talk much.
They regretted that they had married the nastiest people in the world.... no more love...Kind of typical nowadays, huh?
One day Rutali talked to her Mother:
'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can't imagine how
I decided to marry this guy!!!'
Mother: 'Sure, girl, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you really can't stand it. But before that, do one thing first.
Remember the saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first.
You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.'
Rutali thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue and planning to cancel the account.
While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked.
Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home.
When she was home, she handed the passbook to Hitesh, asked him to spend the money before getting divorce.
The next day, Hitesh gave the passbook back to Rutali. She found a new deposit of Rs.5000.
And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I notice how much I've loved you thru out all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.'
They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe.
Do you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not ask. I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone thru all the good years in their life.
I felt adding line to this would take away the basic of this note --- Rs 2000 Cr
Rutali's mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook with Rs.1000 deposit amount.
Mother: 'Rutali, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life.
When there's something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in.
Write down what it's about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in.
I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with Hitesh.
When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you've had.'
Rutali shared this with Hitesh when getting home.
They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made.
This was what they did after certain time:
- 7 Feb: Rs.100, first birthday celebration for Hitesh after marriage
- 1 Mar: Rs.300, salary raise for Rutali
- 20 Mar: Rs.200, vacation trip to Bali
- 15 Apr: Rs.2000, Rutali got pregnant
- 1 Jun: Rs.1000, Hitesh got promoted
..... and so on...
However, after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things. They didn't talk much.
They regretted that they had married the nastiest people in the world.... no more love...Kind of typical nowadays, huh?
One day Rutali talked to her Mother:
'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can't imagine how
I decided to marry this guy!!!'
Mother: 'Sure, girl, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you really can't stand it. But before that, do one thing first.
Remember the saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first.
You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.'
Rutali thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue and planning to cancel the account.
While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked.
Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home.
When she was home, she handed the passbook to Hitesh, asked him to spend the money before getting divorce.
The next day, Hitesh gave the passbook back to Rutali. She found a new deposit of Rs.5000.
And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I notice how much I've loved you thru out all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.'
They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe.
Do you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not ask. I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone thru all the good years in their life.
I felt adding line to this would take away the basic of this note --- Rs 2000 Cr
Respecting Relationship is Respecting Self
Former President of USA, Mr Roanld Reagan to his son at the time of the latter's marriage.
Dear Mike,
You have heard all the jokes that have been rousted around by all the 'unhappy marrieds' and cynics. Now in case no one has suggested it, there is another viewpoint. You have entered into the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life. It can be whatever you decide to make it.
Some men feel their masculinity can only be proven if they play out in their own life all the locker-room stories, smugly confident that what a wife doesn't know won't hurt her. The truth is, somehow, way down inside, without her ever finding lipstick on the collar or catching a man in a filmsy excuse of where he was till 3 am, a wife does know, and with that knowing, some of the magic of the relationship disappears. There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves that there can ever be wives deserving of blame.
There is a old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out. Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back on an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn't take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick, and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music.
If you truly love a girl, you shouldn't ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other women to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the women you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors.
Mike, you know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of the door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.
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I just could not hold me sharing this very perspective of a fathers who has seen all in the world of married life and knows most of the twist and turns that goes on... Its really nice to be a little more caring about the one who stands with you in all your happenings... Happy Reading....
Dear Mike,
You have heard all the jokes that have been rousted around by all the 'unhappy marrieds' and cynics. Now in case no one has suggested it, there is another viewpoint. You have entered into the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life. It can be whatever you decide to make it.
Some men feel their masculinity can only be proven if they play out in their own life all the locker-room stories, smugly confident that what a wife doesn't know won't hurt her. The truth is, somehow, way down inside, without her ever finding lipstick on the collar or catching a man in a filmsy excuse of where he was till 3 am, a wife does know, and with that knowing, some of the magic of the relationship disappears. There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves that there can ever be wives deserving of blame.
There is a old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out. Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back on an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn't take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick, and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music.
If you truly love a girl, you shouldn't ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other women to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the women you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors.
Mike, you know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of the door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.
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I just could not hold me sharing this very perspective of a fathers who has seen all in the world of married life and knows most of the twist and turns that goes on... Its really nice to be a little more caring about the one who stands with you in all your happenings... Happy Reading....
Saturday, November 01, 2008
Expectations
I happen to meet one of my old colleague cum best friend on last weekend as he came down to my city for an interview. We were seeing each other after a year and we have so much to talk about. I happen to pick him and take him to my place where we had break fast and went out for the interview.
I waited for an hour and half for him to finish up the things and then we went to a pub. I was going to be married soon and he was going to be a father soon. I just happen to take some advice from him on marriage and there he went... He started by saying that you need to be mentally and emotionally strong to survive marriage. He said that just remember the expectations people use to have from us is going to increase by multiple folds.
My life flash back in front of me in minute remembering the expectations of my parents to be best in behavior and academically, the expectation of my teachers, expectations of my relatives, expectation of my friends, and expectations of myself from me. Oh gosh... now expectations of all of them with added expectations from my company, my wife , my kids, my wife relatives... The pressure went low in my body and my hands went cold and sweating...
I took few drinks and started wondering that when exactly is the right time for anything and my mind went blank... there is never a perfect time amongst the expectations that we live in..
Expectations before n after marriage changes drastically. But Yes !!! the emotional quotient need to be high to survive...
My friend went back with so many ifs and buts' in my mind with a expectation that I will survive but I don't wanna merely survive rather I wanna live this to its full...
I waited for an hour and half for him to finish up the things and then we went to a pub. I was going to be married soon and he was going to be a father soon. I just happen to take some advice from him on marriage and there he went... He started by saying that you need to be mentally and emotionally strong to survive marriage. He said that just remember the expectations people use to have from us is going to increase by multiple folds.
My life flash back in front of me in minute remembering the expectations of my parents to be best in behavior and academically, the expectation of my teachers, expectations of my relatives, expectation of my friends, and expectations of myself from me. Oh gosh... now expectations of all of them with added expectations from my company, my wife , my kids, my wife relatives... The pressure went low in my body and my hands went cold and sweating...
I took few drinks and started wondering that when exactly is the right time for anything and my mind went blank... there is never a perfect time amongst the expectations that we live in..
Expectations before n after marriage changes drastically. But Yes !!! the emotional quotient need to be high to survive...
My friend went back with so many ifs and buts' in my mind with a expectation that I will survive but I don't wanna merely survive rather I wanna live this to its full...
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