Who has the power to be your greatest enemy? Bad bosses or bad employees? Rotten neighbors? Terrorists? Unfriendly drivers on the freeway?
Actually, none of them.
Your greatest potential enemy is you.
No one can ruin your life like you can. No one can pull the plug on your career as effectively as you. No one can wreck your marriage like you.
When you criticize yourself or hate yourself, you become your own worst enemy.
In a book called "Self Analysis," L. Ron Hubbard writes,
"Probably the most neglected friend you have is you. And yet every man, before he can be a true friend to the world, must first become a friend to himself."
When you have a high opinion of yourself, you are less afraid. You have confidence. You can make progress.
As a good friend to yourself, you stop doubting yourself. You like yourself. You expect you will succeed.
When times get tough, you can rely on yourself. When the whole world seems to oppose you, you will have at least one supporter. Even when your body stops working, you will still have a loyal friend with you.
To become a true friend to yourself, first set a goal to become your own best friend.
With your goal in mind, you can then change a few attitudes. For example, if you beat yourself up for something you did wrong in the past, knock it off. You did what you thought was right at the time. Forgive yourself, decide to never do it again and move on.
If you criticize yourself, maybe someone made you believe these criticisms. Stop agreeing with this person.
At least be fair to yourself. For every critical thought you have about yourself, balance the scales with a positive thought. Why not compliment yourself from time to time?
Be kind to yourself. Buy yourself a gift. Pat yourself on the back.
If you don't like yourself, you may not have many friends. How can you expect people to like you if you don't like you?
Yet as soon you are a true friend to yourself, you will find it easy to have many friendships and become a true friend to the world.
Friday, August 01, 2008
Monday, July 28, 2008
People light oil lamps while paying tribute to victims of Bangalore and Ahmedabad blasts, in Bhopal.
People light oil lamps while paying tribute to victims of Bangalore and Ahmedabad blasts, in Bhopal.
Together we stand in such time reflect our unity... Its one message that the people of Bhopal has taken initiative to tell the world and the terrorists that you are no where near to the internal relationship of us Indian to be shattered with their ill deeds.
We are standing together in the loss of all brothers and sisters in Bangalore and Ahmedabad...
The government should understand this and instead of the politics during such happenings they should be taking harsh measures on how to put a break on terrorist activities which are loud after the series of bomb blasts in two cities killing more than 50 peoples and injuring more that 100 of citizens.
I voice to the government to take the harsh measures without them we won't be able to send the right message to the world and terrorism...
Together we stand
We need to show the world that we stand together on this day to show the terrorists that you can not hit on the love and realtionship of Indians' what so ever terrorists may try. The people are praying and stand to the peoples of bangalore and ahmedabad in their loss.
The series of bomblasts that shattered peace of common peoples in INDIA.. The Bangalore 7 and Ahemdabad 21 killing 50 peoples and injuring more than 100...
The series of bomblasts that shattered peace of common peoples in INDIA.. The Bangalore 7 and Ahemdabad 21 killing 50 peoples and injuring more than 100...
The Series Bomb Blast Ahmedabad Revised :21 blasts, more than 50 dead
The number of blasts that rocked Ahmedabad on Saturday evening was revised to 21 on Sunday, with more bombs and explosives being recovered near Bangalore and in Ahmedabad and Surat. Police said SIMI hand was suspected in the Gujarat attacks.
Union Home Minister Shivraj Patil was summoned by Prime Minister Manmohan Singh on Sunday and asked to provide a detailed brief on the bomb blasts which struck over two days in Bangalore and Ahmedabad, leaving more than 50 dead and above 200 injured. Manmohan Singh, who also met National Security Advisor M K Narayanan apart from top officials of the Home Ministry, was scheduled to visit Ahmedabad on Monday along with Patil and Congress president Sonia Gandhi.
States across India have been put on high alert. In communally sensitive Ahmedabad, the Army staged flag marches while the Centre promised all help to the Narendra Modi Government. The Centre is planning to call a meeting of DGPs of all states soon, said Home Secretary Madhukar Gupta, while a meeting of chief ministers may also be on the cards.
An activist of outlawed outfit SIMI, identified as Abdul Halim, was said to have been picked up in Delhi in connection with the Ahmedabad blasts following a tip-off by the Gujarat Police. But a Delhi Police spokesman denied any knowledge of the arrest.
Sources said as many as 100 people had been detained in Ahmedabad in raids conducted overnight. Among those picked up was Abdul Halim Maulavi, who was accused in 2003-04 of sending 33 youths from Ahmedabad to Pakistan for terrorist training. “Halim has been arrested in connection with an old case, though we may get some leads from his interrogation in the present blasts,” said a senior official.
In Surat, a live bomb was defused near a hospital while two cars were found laden with explosives. One of the cars was seized from Punagam area on the outskirts of Surat city. Powder material, gelatin sticks and shrapnel were recovered from the car bearing the number plate GJ-6-CD 3569. Vadodara Police Commissioner Rakesh Asthana said the registration number was fake.
Police located another car with explosives at Heerabagh locality of Surat, Police Commissioner R M S Brar said, while a live bomb was found near Nupur hospital in New Citylight area of Surat.
In Ahmedabad, police defused a live bomb found lying in a garbage can in Amraiwadi area. Officials said preliminary investigations revealed that ammonium nitrate was used as an explosive material, while LPG cylinders were used to increase the impact of the blast at Civil Hospital. While initially it was suspected that a suicide bomber carried out the hospital blast, police have ruled this out saying initial investigations showed the bomb was kept in a car at the trauma centre.
Joint Commissioner of Police (Crime Branch) Ashish Bhatia said the investigations had been handed over to the Crime Branch.
The Army conducted flag marches in the sensitive Madhupura and Asarva areas of Ahmedabad. “As a precautionary measure, the Army has been called out,” said Additional Commissioner of Police Mohan Jha.
The two days of mayhem, which saw more than 25 explosions in Bangalore and Ahmedabad, have brought further embarrassment for Union Home Minister Shivraj Patil, who has been heavily criticised for not doing enough to prevent terrorist attacks.
There have been at least 13 major terror strikes, starting from the attempt to storm the disputed structure in Ayodhya in July 2005, in his tenure. In none of these incidents, which includes such deadly attacks as the one on the local trains in Mumbai in 2006 and at a busy market place in Delhi in 2005, has any perpetrator been brought to justice.
Before meeting the Prime Minister, Patil met senior officials at his residence where information that had so far emerged from the two incidents was analysed as well as preventive measures that needed to be taken.
Details emerging from investigations in the Bangalore blasts suggest that the terror groups are aiming to maximise the damage. Sources said about 2 kg of ammonium nitrate was used in each of the explosives in Bangalore, while an unexploded device was found in a cement casing. This was done probably to intensify the explosions, though ironically they may have helped reduce the impact.
The use of circuit boards in the blasts in Bangalore, unlike timer devices, also indicated that the terrorists were trying to innovate and keep the investigators confused.
The time is really come for the government and peoples to be more careful and on alert on responsibilities. I really feel that the terrorist are making a fool of our security systems and laughing at us and giving warning on what worse they can do...
Above is the news as i went to read NDTV.COM news ....
Union Home Minister Shivraj Patil was summoned by Prime Minister Manmohan Singh on Sunday and asked to provide a detailed brief on the bomb blasts which struck over two days in Bangalore and Ahmedabad, leaving more than 50 dead and above 200 injured. Manmohan Singh, who also met National Security Advisor M K Narayanan apart from top officials of the Home Ministry, was scheduled to visit Ahmedabad on Monday along with Patil and Congress president Sonia Gandhi.
States across India have been put on high alert. In communally sensitive Ahmedabad, the Army staged flag marches while the Centre promised all help to the Narendra Modi Government. The Centre is planning to call a meeting of DGPs of all states soon, said Home Secretary Madhukar Gupta, while a meeting of chief ministers may also be on the cards.
An activist of outlawed outfit SIMI, identified as Abdul Halim, was said to have been picked up in Delhi in connection with the Ahmedabad blasts following a tip-off by the Gujarat Police. But a Delhi Police spokesman denied any knowledge of the arrest.
Sources said as many as 100 people had been detained in Ahmedabad in raids conducted overnight. Among those picked up was Abdul Halim Maulavi, who was accused in 2003-04 of sending 33 youths from Ahmedabad to Pakistan for terrorist training. “Halim has been arrested in connection with an old case, though we may get some leads from his interrogation in the present blasts,” said a senior official.
In Surat, a live bomb was defused near a hospital while two cars were found laden with explosives. One of the cars was seized from Punagam area on the outskirts of Surat city. Powder material, gelatin sticks and shrapnel were recovered from the car bearing the number plate GJ-6-CD 3569. Vadodara Police Commissioner Rakesh Asthana said the registration number was fake.
Police located another car with explosives at Heerabagh locality of Surat, Police Commissioner R M S Brar said, while a live bomb was found near Nupur hospital in New Citylight area of Surat.
In Ahmedabad, police defused a live bomb found lying in a garbage can in Amraiwadi area. Officials said preliminary investigations revealed that ammonium nitrate was used as an explosive material, while LPG cylinders were used to increase the impact of the blast at Civil Hospital. While initially it was suspected that a suicide bomber carried out the hospital blast, police have ruled this out saying initial investigations showed the bomb was kept in a car at the trauma centre.
Joint Commissioner of Police (Crime Branch) Ashish Bhatia said the investigations had been handed over to the Crime Branch.
The Army conducted flag marches in the sensitive Madhupura and Asarva areas of Ahmedabad. “As a precautionary measure, the Army has been called out,” said Additional Commissioner of Police Mohan Jha.
The two days of mayhem, which saw more than 25 explosions in Bangalore and Ahmedabad, have brought further embarrassment for Union Home Minister Shivraj Patil, who has been heavily criticised for not doing enough to prevent terrorist attacks.
There have been at least 13 major terror strikes, starting from the attempt to storm the disputed structure in Ayodhya in July 2005, in his tenure. In none of these incidents, which includes such deadly attacks as the one on the local trains in Mumbai in 2006 and at a busy market place in Delhi in 2005, has any perpetrator been brought to justice.
Before meeting the Prime Minister, Patil met senior officials at his residence where information that had so far emerged from the two incidents was analysed as well as preventive measures that needed to be taken.
Details emerging from investigations in the Bangalore blasts suggest that the terror groups are aiming to maximise the damage. Sources said about 2 kg of ammonium nitrate was used in each of the explosives in Bangalore, while an unexploded device was found in a cement casing. This was done probably to intensify the explosions, though ironically they may have helped reduce the impact.
The use of circuit boards in the blasts in Bangalore, unlike timer devices, also indicated that the terrorists were trying to innovate and keep the investigators confused.
The time is really come for the government and peoples to be more careful and on alert on responsibilities. I really feel that the terrorist are making a fool of our security systems and laughing at us and giving warning on what worse they can do...
Above is the news as i went to read NDTV.COM news ....
Friday, July 25, 2008
7 blasts rock Bangalore; two killed, 70 wounded
It has been more hurting as the news is coming...
The blast has once again proven that we and our government need to work out something together... these kinds of activities leave us in great despair but time to react and let the terrorist know that we are not going to be any inch down to fight them back... they need not be happy on their ill deed that happened today... strong measures need to be taken if there is a time to do it ... its now only...
According to Bangalore Police Commissioner, Shankar Bidari, seven blasts rocked Bangalore.
The blasts took place at the Madiwala bus depot, Mysore road, Adugudi, Adugudi, Koramangla, Vittal Mallaya road, Langford Town and Richmond Town. The blasts took place within a span of 60 minutes. (Map: Bangalore blasts sites)
"In all these cases they have created the blast using timer devices," Bangalore Commissioner of Police Shankar Bidari told reporters at the site of one of the blasts.
"Explosives have also been used, in quantity equal to one or two grenades."
The police sources also said that these terror attacks bear the hallmarks of Bangladesh outfit HuJi.
Some IT firms, as well as schools, colleges, malls and cinemas closed after news of the blasts broke. Phone lines were jammed.
"I was on my way to office when we heard a noise," witness Arun Daniel told a news channel. "It sounded like a cracker. The traffic was blocked, everyone was running around. It was not a severe blast."
A TV channel showed a small shopping stall in Bangalore with broken windows and its concrete floors broken in pieces. Rubble littered another site.
M R Pujar, additional police commissioner for Bangalore said "crude explosives" had been used. "There were seven low-intensity explosions," he said. "Some of them were in crowded areas."
Bomb disposal squads have reached the blasts sites.
According to IB sources, SIMI and LeT may be behind the Bangalore blasts and they could be retaliatory in nature.
Union Home Secretary Madhukar Gupta has said that, "we are in the initial stages of the investigation. We are in constant touch with the state government. We hope to have a detailed report by evening.
The injured have been admitted to the St Johns Hospital in Bangalore.
As I read it in TimesOf India
Major breakthrough in Bangalore blast case
The Karnataka government on Wednesday claimed a major breakthrough in identifying the gang behind the bomb blasts that rocked churches at three places in the state, including Bangalore during the last one month.
State Home Minister Mallikharjun Kharge disclosed in Bangalore that the suspected gang belonged to a sect called Deendar Channabasaveshwara Siddiqui, but declined to elaborate on its whereabouts as the credentials of the organisation were being investigated by the Corps of Detectives and the state police.
"Investigations so far have revealed that the blasts in Karnataka as well as in neighbouring Andhra Pradesh were found to be the handiwork of this gang. Identical explosives were used in all the cases, except in the Hubli church," Kharge claimed. The explosives had gelatine detonators fitted with a timer device.
Asked whether the police was able to establish the sect's links with Pakistan's Inter Services Intelligence, Kharge replied in the negative. "Raids and all-out searches are on to trace the origins of the sect and its antecedents," the minister asserted.
Meanwhile, the city police have formally arrested Ibrahim, the sole survivor of Sunday night's van explosion that took place an hour before a crude bomb blast rocked the St Peter's church in a city suburb. His two accomplices, Siddique and Zakir, died in the blast.
Ibrahim, who sustained serious injuries in the incident, is undergoing treatment at a city hospital. The police had informed him of his arrest in the wake of incriminating material found in his house, which was raided by the CoD earlier in the day.
The raid revealed that Ibrahim is employed as an accountant with a private firm. A personal computer, some books and pamphlets were seized. The CoD found files containing anti-Christian literature in the PC.
In a related development, state Chief Minister S M Krishna and AP Chief Minister N Chandrababu Naidu exchanged notes on the ongoing investigation into the spate of bomb blasts in churches, which have shaken the Christian community. As in Karnataka, there were three attacks on churches in AP.
Krishna sought the help of the Andhra police in pursuing leads on the antecedents of Ibrahim, whose family hails from Vijayawada. Following a tip-off from the state police, the Andhra police raided several places in Vijayawada.
Krishna also spoke to Union Home Minister L K Advani on Wednesday morning. "He briefed Advani on the ongoing investigations," said a senior official. The Chief Minister is leaving for Delhi on Thursday to appraise the Centre as well as the Congress high command of the ruling Congress, as Party President Sonia Gandhi had taken a serious note of the attacks on churches in Karnataka of late.
As read in Fakir chands article on rediff...
State Home Minister Mallikharjun Kharge disclosed in Bangalore that the suspected gang belonged to a sect called Deendar Channabasaveshwara Siddiqui, but declined to elaborate on its whereabouts as the credentials of the organisation were being investigated by the Corps of Detectives and the state police.
"Investigations so far have revealed that the blasts in Karnataka as well as in neighbouring Andhra Pradesh were found to be the handiwork of this gang. Identical explosives were used in all the cases, except in the Hubli church," Kharge claimed. The explosives had gelatine detonators fitted with a timer device.
Asked whether the police was able to establish the sect's links with Pakistan's Inter Services Intelligence, Kharge replied in the negative. "Raids and all-out searches are on to trace the origins of the sect and its antecedents," the minister asserted.
Meanwhile, the city police have formally arrested Ibrahim, the sole survivor of Sunday night's van explosion that took place an hour before a crude bomb blast rocked the St Peter's church in a city suburb. His two accomplices, Siddique and Zakir, died in the blast.
Ibrahim, who sustained serious injuries in the incident, is undergoing treatment at a city hospital. The police had informed him of his arrest in the wake of incriminating material found in his house, which was raided by the CoD earlier in the day.
The raid revealed that Ibrahim is employed as an accountant with a private firm. A personal computer, some books and pamphlets were seized. The CoD found files containing anti-Christian literature in the PC.
In a related development, state Chief Minister S M Krishna and AP Chief Minister N Chandrababu Naidu exchanged notes on the ongoing investigation into the spate of bomb blasts in churches, which have shaken the Christian community. As in Karnataka, there were three attacks on churches in AP.
Krishna sought the help of the Andhra police in pursuing leads on the antecedents of Ibrahim, whose family hails from Vijayawada. Following a tip-off from the state police, the Andhra police raided several places in Vijayawada.
Krishna also spoke to Union Home Minister L K Advani on Wednesday morning. "He briefed Advani on the ongoing investigations," said a senior official. The Chief Minister is leaving for Delhi on Thursday to appraise the Centre as well as the Congress high command of the ruling Congress, as Party President Sonia Gandhi had taken a serious note of the attacks on churches in Karnataka of late.
As read in Fakir chands article on rediff...
5 dead, 50 injured in ISKCON temple bomb blast
Bangalore Bomb Blast, 6 blasts rock Bangalore, Two killed, 20 injured, Bomb Blast In Bangalore, Bangalore News
Imphal: At least five people were killed and 50 others, including five American and three French nationals, injured when a powerful bomb exploded in the complex of International Society for Krishna Consciousness (ISKCON) on Wednesday evening when the shrine was teeming with Janmasthami devotees.
The toll might go up because some of those who suffered injuries were in critical condition, sources in the Regional Institute of Medical Science and Hospital said.
Hospital sources said three French and five American nationals were among those who sustained splinter injuries in the blast, which took place at around 7 p.m. Earlier reports had spoken about injury to only one foreigner.
Several important persons, including chief priest of the ISKCON'S Damodar Das, were among those who were hit by splinters of the bomb, which was reportedly hurled at the Tulihal airport area in Imphal West district of Manipur by some unidentified people.
No individual or organisation has claimed responsibility for the explosions, official sources said.
Manipur Chief Minister O Ibobi Singh visited the hospital and strongly condemned the incident.
Official sources said an investigation would be ordered to find out how insurgents or militants infiltrated the state capital complex in spite of heavy security deployment.
The spot where the bomb exploded falls under high security zone in the state capital, sources said, adding the area was also under the surveillance of security forces...
One woman has been reportedly killed and about 15 injured in six blasts that rocked the southern city of Bangalore today (July 25). The first blast took place at around 1:30 pm at the Madivala checkpost in the city, while the second blast has been reported from Mysore road.
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Imphal: At least five people were killed and 50 others, including five American and three French nationals, injured when a powerful bomb exploded in the complex of International Society for Krishna Consciousness (ISKCON) on Wednesday evening when the shrine was teeming with Janmasthami devotees.
The toll might go up because some of those who suffered injuries were in critical condition, sources in the Regional Institute of Medical Science and Hospital said.
Hospital sources said three French and five American nationals were among those who sustained splinter injuries in the blast, which took place at around 7 p.m. Earlier reports had spoken about injury to only one foreigner.
Several important persons, including chief priest of the ISKCON'S Damodar Das, were among those who were hit by splinters of the bomb, which was reportedly hurled at the Tulihal airport area in Imphal West district of Manipur by some unidentified people.
No individual or organisation has claimed responsibility for the explosions, official sources said.
Manipur Chief Minister O Ibobi Singh visited the hospital and strongly condemned the incident.
Official sources said an investigation would be ordered to find out how insurgents or militants infiltrated the state capital complex in spite of heavy security deployment.
The spot where the bomb exploded falls under high security zone in the state capital, sources said, adding the area was also under the surveillance of security forces...
One woman has been reportedly killed and about 15 injured in six blasts that rocked the southern city of Bangalore today (July 25). The first blast took place at around 1:30 pm at the Madivala checkpost in the city, while the second blast has been reported from Mysore road.
>>Read More
Friday, July 18, 2008
The ARC Triangle is the keystone of living associations
The Ultimate Marriage Tool
Affinity, Reality and Communication (ARC)
As with all of your relationships, your marriage succeeds or fails based on ARC. The more you communicate, the more you agree on things, and the greater your affinity for your spouse, the better your marriage. If you do not communicate, do not agree and do not like each other, the marriage is doomed.
"Marriages fall apart simply because of a failure of communication, because of a failure of reality and affinity." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Young lovers believe, "Our love is so strong, it will make our marriage last forever." Of course, if affinity is all they have, sooner or later, the lack of agreement or poor communication ruins the relationship.
For example, Julie and Jeff meet at a coffee shop one night, fall madly in love and get married. When apart, they can't think of anything but each other. When together, they can't keep their hands off each other. Neither have experienced so much affinity, so they get married.
But their reality point suffers. Julie doesn't agree with Jeff's decision to start a plumbing shop. She would rather he became an accountant. Jeff doesn't agree with Julie's urge to socialize. He'd rather she stayed at home.
To compensate, they decide to not communicate, "Let's not talk about those things right now. All that matters is that we will love each other forever." Of course, by not communicating about their disagreements, their love/affinity begins to dwindle.
Julie and Jeff stop holding hands as often. Sometimes they ignore each other at home. They keep secrets from each other. They argue about little things, like where to eat dinner, who should clean the house and which type of cat food is best.
The little things become bigger things: choices of friends, money, sex and so on. The arguments become fights. Jeff storms out and stays away for a few nights. Julie moves back with her parents. The marriage dies.
As another example, Bill and Diana know how to use the ARC Triangle. When they first meet at work, they feel the same incredible feeling of affinity toward each other. Love songs, sunsets and hugs become amazing experiences for both of them.
But as they begin to plan their life together, Bill and Diana take the time to bring their communication and reality up to the same level as their affinity point. They say things like:
"Instead of going to a movie tonight, why don't we talk about our goals. Maybe we can agree on a future together."
"If we were to stay together, we'd have to agree on how we would spend our time together. I like to spend time with my old friends. What do you think?"
"I need to tell you something I did wrong and really regret, but we agreed to not have secrets. Can I tell you now?"
While they might experience some glitches in their relationship, the strength of their affinity AND reality AND communication is stronger than any problems they encounter. Bill and Diana get married and stay married for decades, based on all three points of the ARC Triangle.
Recommendations
You can improve your marriage, or even save a bad marriage, by improving your ARC.
1. Write down how you can improve your communication with your spouse.
2. Write down how you can reach more agreements with your spouse.
3. Write down how you can increase your affinity for your spouse.
4. Take the easiest task and do it today.
5. Do the rest of the tasks and continue these steps until your ARC with your spouse is higher and your marriage is better than ever!
To read more, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/arc1.htm
Affinity, Reality and Communication (ARC)
As with all of your relationships, your marriage succeeds or fails based on ARC. The more you communicate, the more you agree on things, and the greater your affinity for your spouse, the better your marriage. If you do not communicate, do not agree and do not like each other, the marriage is doomed.
"Marriages fall apart simply because of a failure of communication, because of a failure of reality and affinity." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Young lovers believe, "Our love is so strong, it will make our marriage last forever." Of course, if affinity is all they have, sooner or later, the lack of agreement or poor communication ruins the relationship.
For example, Julie and Jeff meet at a coffee shop one night, fall madly in love and get married. When apart, they can't think of anything but each other. When together, they can't keep their hands off each other. Neither have experienced so much affinity, so they get married.
But their reality point suffers. Julie doesn't agree with Jeff's decision to start a plumbing shop. She would rather he became an accountant. Jeff doesn't agree with Julie's urge to socialize. He'd rather she stayed at home.
To compensate, they decide to not communicate, "Let's not talk about those things right now. All that matters is that we will love each other forever." Of course, by not communicating about their disagreements, their love/affinity begins to dwindle.
Julie and Jeff stop holding hands as often. Sometimes they ignore each other at home. They keep secrets from each other. They argue about little things, like where to eat dinner, who should clean the house and which type of cat food is best.
The little things become bigger things: choices of friends, money, sex and so on. The arguments become fights. Jeff storms out and stays away for a few nights. Julie moves back with her parents. The marriage dies.
As another example, Bill and Diana know how to use the ARC Triangle. When they first meet at work, they feel the same incredible feeling of affinity toward each other. Love songs, sunsets and hugs become amazing experiences for both of them.
But as they begin to plan their life together, Bill and Diana take the time to bring their communication and reality up to the same level as their affinity point. They say things like:
"Instead of going to a movie tonight, why don't we talk about our goals. Maybe we can agree on a future together."
"If we were to stay together, we'd have to agree on how we would spend our time together. I like to spend time with my old friends. What do you think?"
"I need to tell you something I did wrong and really regret, but we agreed to not have secrets. Can I tell you now?"
While they might experience some glitches in their relationship, the strength of their affinity AND reality AND communication is stronger than any problems they encounter. Bill and Diana get married and stay married for decades, based on all three points of the ARC Triangle.
Recommendations
You can improve your marriage, or even save a bad marriage, by improving your ARC.
1. Write down how you can improve your communication with your spouse.
2. Write down how you can reach more agreements with your spouse.
3. Write down how you can increase your affinity for your spouse.
4. Take the easiest task and do it today.
5. Do the rest of the tasks and continue these steps until your ARC with your spouse is higher and your marriage is better than ever!
To read more, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/arc1.htm
Take Advantage of Your Opportunities
Right now, you can make a decision that will make you more successful. Right now, you can take a step that will move you closer to your goals. Right now, you can change something about your life that will make you healthier and happier. However, if you find it hard to make decisions or take action, you miss these opportunities.
What opportunities have you missed? How much did your indecision cost you?
Indecision costs companies millions when they fail to decide or fail to act. An opportunity comes and goes while management sits on its hands. For example, IBM could have controlled the personal computer market if it had acted on Bill Gates' offer to handle their computer operating software for them. Barnes and Noble was the world's biggest bookseller until Amazon.com took over. By the time Barnes and Noble started selling books on the Internet, Amazon.com had taken the number one spot.
When you as an individual fail to make a decision or fail to act, you can also ruin your success or happiness. For example, you could have started a business when you were in your twenties. You could have formed a partnership with a very successful person. You could have made better decisions regarding your ex-spouse.
You have probably seen big opportunities, knew they were big opportunities, and failed to act on them.
In fact, you probably have one or more opportunities in front of you now. So what makes you hesitate?
So go for it...
remember "Inaction and indecision in the present is because of fear of consequences of the future." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Because you are afraid of certain consequences, you do not act or do not decide. You are afraid of what might happen. You can see this principle at work with the following exercise.
Five Tips for Conquering Your Fear of Consequences
1. Write down an opportunity that is available to you right now.
2. Write down the decision that is difficult to make or the action that is difficult to take.
3. Write down the consequences you might be afraid of.
4. Of these consequences, identify your biggest fear or fears.
5. Take action to resolve this fear or fears.
and please please for your sake dont bother what others are going to think about your step...
Best of Luck ... go ahead and grab the opportunity before it fades away with time...
What opportunities have you missed? How much did your indecision cost you?
Indecision costs companies millions when they fail to decide or fail to act. An opportunity comes and goes while management sits on its hands. For example, IBM could have controlled the personal computer market if it had acted on Bill Gates' offer to handle their computer operating software for them. Barnes and Noble was the world's biggest bookseller until Amazon.com took over. By the time Barnes and Noble started selling books on the Internet, Amazon.com had taken the number one spot.
When you as an individual fail to make a decision or fail to act, you can also ruin your success or happiness. For example, you could have started a business when you were in your twenties. You could have formed a partnership with a very successful person. You could have made better decisions regarding your ex-spouse.
You have probably seen big opportunities, knew they were big opportunities, and failed to act on them.
In fact, you probably have one or more opportunities in front of you now. So what makes you hesitate?
So go for it...
remember "Inaction and indecision in the present is because of fear of consequences of the future." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Because you are afraid of certain consequences, you do not act or do not decide. You are afraid of what might happen. You can see this principle at work with the following exercise.
Five Tips for Conquering Your Fear of Consequences
1. Write down an opportunity that is available to you right now.
2. Write down the decision that is difficult to make or the action that is difficult to take.
3. Write down the consequences you might be afraid of.
4. Of these consequences, identify your biggest fear or fears.
5. Take action to resolve this fear or fears.
and please please for your sake dont bother what others are going to think about your step...
Best of Luck ... go ahead and grab the opportunity before it fades away with time...
Tuesday, July 01, 2008
Success Happiness Freedom
While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions
Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us
Between stimulus and response is our greatest power - the freedom to choose
Happiness can be defined, in part at least, as the fruit of the desire and ability to sacrifice what we want now for what we want eventually
I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.
Sow an act...reap a habit; Sow a habit...reap a character; Sow a character...reap a destiny
Everyone experiences tough times, it is a measure of your determination and dedication how you deal with them and how you can come through them
If you are going through hell, keep going
Never, never, never give up
To build may have to be the slow and laborious task of years. To destroy can be the thoughtless act of a single day
Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be”
Thursday, May 01, 2008
Friday, March 21, 2008
Indian relations with France, US
I was just reading news articles online and found this article worth sharing here...
The visit of the French President, Jacques Chirac, to India was a relatively low-key affair, as the chatterati did not pay much attention to it. The forthcoming visit of US President George W Bush looms much larger in the pundits' imagination, partly because of the huge buildup of expectations about nuclear cooperation. Alas, in the quaint Indianism used by sportswriters, the Americans are merely 'flattering to deceive'.
American diplomats and non-proliferation Cold Warriors are running circles around their Indian counterparts -- seducing them with faint praise -- and so I am glad to note that a number of scientists and administrators have said that the July 18, 2005 accord amounts to a massive sell-out of Indian interests under pressure. Strategic analysts who opposed the deal from the beginning -- such as Brahma Chellaney -- should feel vindicated.
That Obscure Object of Desire: Nuclear Energy
In this context, the French offer of nuclear fuel and reactors -- under IAEA safeguards -- amounts to a useful Plan B for India. France has an advanced nuclear power industry of its own, which supplies a good fraction of the country's needs, and they most probably have more up-to-date designs than the Americans. The latter have been handicapped by negative public opinion after Three Mile Island, and have not built new civilian reactors for decades.
In any case, having a second source is a major factor in limiting supplier power. It is the potential for American supplier monopoly and therefore veto-power over India's nuclear future that has worried Indian analysts. The prospect of France -- and possibly Japan, with its own advanced nuclear power industry -- bidding for India's business would greatly enhance India's own buyer power vis-�-vis American arm-twisting.
As usual, India is inept at exerting its leverage. For instance, in response to American pressure (Ambassador Mulford's dire threats) India should have announced that it was rethinking Air-India's big order of aircraft to Boeing, and re-opened negotiations with Airbus. This would have brought the US Trade Representative running to Delhi ('airdashed' in Indian journalese), and would have silenced the non-proliferation ayatollahs at Foggy Bottom.
India, France sign 9 agreements
It is worth noting that American commercial interests -- notably Westinghouse -- had been in the forefront of American approval of $5 billion worth of nuclear power plant sales to China, which has been a consistent proliferators and flouter of international norms. I read recently that Westinghouse had been sold to Toshiba of Japan, and I wonder what effect that has on things. What are Toshiba's (and Japan, Inc.'s) thoughts on selling nuclear material to China with which Japan's relations are, to put it mildly, tenuous? And more to the point, how keen is Toshiba on selling power plants to India?
Apart from the nuclear deal, it is worthwhile for India in general to have a good relationship with France, which is prone to act as a gadfly, often indulging in knee-jerk anti-Americanism. India should play off the Americans against the French (and Europeans in general) as both are keen on the billion-person Indian market. India can wrest concessions from both.
Neither America nor France is particularly India's bosom buddy, but that they are both jockeying for position in support of their national interest. This is a clich�, but it is not clear that Indian negotiators have internalised this.
Why is India giving France the cold shoulder?
For instance, in the current furore over Mittal Steel's proposed takeover of French rival Arcelor, European chauvinism and racism has come to the fore -- for instance note Arcelor chief Guy Dolle sniffing that his steel was 'perfume', while Mittal's was 'eau de cologne'. Excuse me, I thought steel was steel was steel. Perfume? Surely he jests!
What are the roots of the tension between America and France? A few months ago, Americans were up in arms against France, renaming 'French fries' as 'Freedom fries' and so forth, over something so trivial that they have (and I have) now forgotten what the fuss was all about. And French condescension towards parvenu, uncultured Americans is legendary.
Bernand-Henri Levy, the French author, in his recent book American Vertigo takes a look at this question -- and he acknowledges explicitly that he is following in the footsteps of his celebrated compatriot Alexis de Tocqueville who wrote, 170 years ago, one of the most penetrating analyses ever of what makes American society tick. Levy believes that part of the reason for this animosity is that both nations believe in a sort of 'manifest destiny' -- that they are uniquely qualified to lead the world to a new vision of egalite, liberte, fraternite in one case and 'democracy' in the other.
Of course, we all know that these fine sentiments do not always jive with action on the ground. The French were keen imperialists, and the Americans have always preferred ruthless military dictatorships over mere democracies when it comes to choosing allies. Levy calls himself an 'anti-anti-American' meaning that he opposes the reflexive anti-Americanism endemic in Europe, which perspective he believes opposes everything that is actually good in America.
The Indo-US nuclear tango
Levy asserts that in fact it is the French Right that hates America, not the French Left. Coming from the former leftist, this may have credence. According to Levy, the French Right believes in a mythology of homogeneity, of blood and race and color, and of that as the basis of nationality. America, a nation that luxuriates in the diversity of its population, is clearly the very antithesis of this belief, and apparently that is the thing that sticks in the craw for the French Right: it repudiates their fundamental beliefs.
Of course, India shares the element of diversity with America, in a manner reminiscent of Walt Whitman in Leaves of Grass: 'I am large, I contain multitudes.' And the Lord in the Bhagavad Gita, XI:5:
Pasyay may Partha roopani shatasho'tha sahasrasha:
Nanavidhani divyani nanavarna krtani cha |
Arjuna, behold presently in hundreds and thousands
My multifarious divine forms, of diverse colors and shapes.
India is the ultimate in heterogeneity, a mixture of people and ideas that somehow, out of this diversity -- and despite the active attempts of its current ruling class to, well, divide and rule -- has always been a nation and a civilisation. And despite the best efforts of its rulers to destroy the nation by destroying its millennia-old cultural roots, the idea of India survives.
The George Bush interview
Neither the old culture of Europe, as embodied in the idea of France, or the brash new culture of America, is an exact analog of India's culture. They may complement each other: India needs to work with each of them and gain whatever it can from both. India has been generous with its cultural gifts to Europe and now America, and it is time to call in the favours. It was after all, a Frenchman, Voltaire, who said, memorably, the following:
'I am convinced that everything has come down to us from the banks of the Ganges, astronomy, astrology, metempsychosis'
The visit of the French President, Jacques Chirac, to India was a relatively low-key affair, as the chatterati did not pay much attention to it. The forthcoming visit of US President George W Bush looms much larger in the pundits' imagination, partly because of the huge buildup of expectations about nuclear cooperation. Alas, in the quaint Indianism used by sportswriters, the Americans are merely 'flattering to deceive'.
American diplomats and non-proliferation Cold Warriors are running circles around their Indian counterparts -- seducing them with faint praise -- and so I am glad to note that a number of scientists and administrators have said that the July 18, 2005 accord amounts to a massive sell-out of Indian interests under pressure. Strategic analysts who opposed the deal from the beginning -- such as Brahma Chellaney -- should feel vindicated.
That Obscure Object of Desire: Nuclear Energy
In this context, the French offer of nuclear fuel and reactors -- under IAEA safeguards -- amounts to a useful Plan B for India. France has an advanced nuclear power industry of its own, which supplies a good fraction of the country's needs, and they most probably have more up-to-date designs than the Americans. The latter have been handicapped by negative public opinion after Three Mile Island, and have not built new civilian reactors for decades.
In any case, having a second source is a major factor in limiting supplier power. It is the potential for American supplier monopoly and therefore veto-power over India's nuclear future that has worried Indian analysts. The prospect of France -- and possibly Japan, with its own advanced nuclear power industry -- bidding for India's business would greatly enhance India's own buyer power vis-�-vis American arm-twisting.
As usual, India is inept at exerting its leverage. For instance, in response to American pressure (Ambassador Mulford's dire threats) India should have announced that it was rethinking Air-India's big order of aircraft to Boeing, and re-opened negotiations with Airbus. This would have brought the US Trade Representative running to Delhi ('airdashed' in Indian journalese), and would have silenced the non-proliferation ayatollahs at Foggy Bottom.
India, France sign 9 agreements
It is worth noting that American commercial interests -- notably Westinghouse -- had been in the forefront of American approval of $5 billion worth of nuclear power plant sales to China, which has been a consistent proliferators and flouter of international norms. I read recently that Westinghouse had been sold to Toshiba of Japan, and I wonder what effect that has on things. What are Toshiba's (and Japan, Inc.'s) thoughts on selling nuclear material to China with which Japan's relations are, to put it mildly, tenuous? And more to the point, how keen is Toshiba on selling power plants to India?
Apart from the nuclear deal, it is worthwhile for India in general to have a good relationship with France, which is prone to act as a gadfly, often indulging in knee-jerk anti-Americanism. India should play off the Americans against the French (and Europeans in general) as both are keen on the billion-person Indian market. India can wrest concessions from both.
Neither America nor France is particularly India's bosom buddy, but that they are both jockeying for position in support of their national interest. This is a clich�, but it is not clear that Indian negotiators have internalised this.
Why is India giving France the cold shoulder?
For instance, in the current furore over Mittal Steel's proposed takeover of French rival Arcelor, European chauvinism and racism has come to the fore -- for instance note Arcelor chief Guy Dolle sniffing that his steel was 'perfume', while Mittal's was 'eau de cologne'. Excuse me, I thought steel was steel was steel. Perfume? Surely he jests!
What are the roots of the tension between America and France? A few months ago, Americans were up in arms against France, renaming 'French fries' as 'Freedom fries' and so forth, over something so trivial that they have (and I have) now forgotten what the fuss was all about. And French condescension towards parvenu, uncultured Americans is legendary.
Bernand-Henri Levy, the French author, in his recent book American Vertigo takes a look at this question -- and he acknowledges explicitly that he is following in the footsteps of his celebrated compatriot Alexis de Tocqueville who wrote, 170 years ago, one of the most penetrating analyses ever of what makes American society tick. Levy believes that part of the reason for this animosity is that both nations believe in a sort of 'manifest destiny' -- that they are uniquely qualified to lead the world to a new vision of egalite, liberte, fraternite in one case and 'democracy' in the other.
Of course, we all know that these fine sentiments do not always jive with action on the ground. The French were keen imperialists, and the Americans have always preferred ruthless military dictatorships over mere democracies when it comes to choosing allies. Levy calls himself an 'anti-anti-American' meaning that he opposes the reflexive anti-Americanism endemic in Europe, which perspective he believes opposes everything that is actually good in America.
The Indo-US nuclear tango
Levy asserts that in fact it is the French Right that hates America, not the French Left. Coming from the former leftist, this may have credence. According to Levy, the French Right believes in a mythology of homogeneity, of blood and race and color, and of that as the basis of nationality. America, a nation that luxuriates in the diversity of its population, is clearly the very antithesis of this belief, and apparently that is the thing that sticks in the craw for the French Right: it repudiates their fundamental beliefs.
Of course, India shares the element of diversity with America, in a manner reminiscent of Walt Whitman in Leaves of Grass: 'I am large, I contain multitudes.' And the Lord in the Bhagavad Gita, XI:5:
Pasyay may Partha roopani shatasho'tha sahasrasha:
Nanavidhani divyani nanavarna krtani cha |
Arjuna, behold presently in hundreds and thousands
My multifarious divine forms, of diverse colors and shapes.
India is the ultimate in heterogeneity, a mixture of people and ideas that somehow, out of this diversity -- and despite the active attempts of its current ruling class to, well, divide and rule -- has always been a nation and a civilisation. And despite the best efforts of its rulers to destroy the nation by destroying its millennia-old cultural roots, the idea of India survives.
The George Bush interview
Neither the old culture of Europe, as embodied in the idea of France, or the brash new culture of America, is an exact analog of India's culture. They may complement each other: India needs to work with each of them and gain whatever it can from both. India has been generous with its cultural gifts to Europe and now America, and it is time to call in the favours. It was after all, a Frenchman, Voltaire, who said, memorably, the following:
'I am convinced that everything has come down to us from the banks of the Ganges, astronomy, astrology, metempsychosis'
Saturday, March 15, 2008
Realationship- Who choses who
I have been troubled by this question time and again... Do we chose relationship or realtionship choses us... cant say... We happen to bond with some stranger whom we never thought to meet in life and we fail to stand realtionship with people with whom we know for last several years... So what is that makes relationships live...
The part that relationships we are born with are the one we dont have choice with or is it true for all relationship that we human fall in our entire life span... Do we chose with whom we should be hangout or does the relationship has that power of choice...
To stop been in dilemna what I do is accept the realtionship as it is rather than giving it a fight and moulding it as I like it... There are times when we are hapless and there are time when we give a fight back to hold some relations... So exactly who decides is still a question whose answer might come to me someday till then singing the song "Jo Bhi Pyaar Se Mila Hum Usi Ke Ho Liye..."
Sunday, March 09, 2008
Relationship-Desination or Journey
It sometimes confuses we humans that what we actually desire for... is the achievement of the desired is the what we actually wished or is it the journey...
Relationship is not what we relish for a single moment rather we reap the ecstasy of been together for a long span... We happen to get in relation with some and failed with others but does that means end for the relationship which the two persons shared before getting into a relationship for a lifetime...
We happen to love but do we marry the same person... Its not have happened for most of the peoples due to various reasons. Some might have fallen in-between for social issues and some for religious and some for misunderstanding and few for finding that two were not perfect for each other...
But is the commitment to the relationship comes only from socially known bondage or is it from soul too...
We feel broken if we fail to marry the person we love but we forget that we have a beautiful memories of all the journey the two has come across in the process...
what i mean to say is that there is a lot more than just achieving...renunciation also works wonder sometimes... try it...
Monday, January 07, 2008
Beauty of been together
We all happen to need someone close to share our feelings. We are thats why called as social aniamals... Its the emotions that we human take it that long to be remebered long after the existence of the entities that made that very relationship...
Sunday, October 28, 2007
On the other side
We happen to say that girls never understand boys and the same can be heard from the galz side... so are we two genders two different languages as per the myth that men are from mars and women are from venus....
I feel that we are not aliens to this planet... but what is that makes us feel like that we are from different lingua domain....
I think we both fail to see what we are trying to speak... often we are speaking the same thing still arguing that who is right...
We are perhaps not a good listener... if we just happen to stop just beeing our side of the story it will always be that hard to understand but if we just take a step ahead and stand on the other side we can see what the words from that direction were popped to meant...
if we just take one step ahead....
Monday, October 01, 2007
Is conflict inevitable in the employment relations?
The outcome of this constant argue between employees and employers, considering economic matters in the employment relationship. Is that employers want high work intensity at the workplace, and that the firm or organization would like to gain high profit in the market they are targeting to. Employees on the other hand prefer high wages and a good and safe work environment. As well as their work performance are being appreciated by the managers. Why does employee join together as one identity, to confront and negotiate with the employers?
Employees join together because individuals have less power dealing with employers than a group of more people. If many individuals have collective interests, they have a much bigger influence if they come together as a group, towards the employers. Trade unions (a group of workers sharing the same interests in the workplace) are to protect the employees interests like better wages, hours of work and conditions at work. The primary goal for the unions is to protect the economic conditions for the employees, and to advance their wages...
Monday, September 03, 2007
Small Pain In My Chest
The soldier boy was sitting calmly underneath that tree.
As I approached it, I could see him beckoning to me.
The battle had been long and hard and lasted through the night
And scores of figures on the ground lay still by morning's light.
"I wonder if you'd help me, sir", he smiled as best he could.
"A sip of water on this morn would surely do me good.
We fought all day and fought all night with scarcely any rest -
A sip of water for I have a small pain in my chest."
As I looked at him, I could see the large stain on his shirt
All reddish-brown from his warm blood mixed in with Asian dirt.
"Not much", said he. "I count myself more lucky than the rest.
They're all gone while I just have a small pain in my chest."
"Must be fatigue", he weakly smiled. "I must be getting old.
I see the sun is shining bright and yet I'm feeling cold.
We climbed the hill, two hundred strong, but as we cleared the crest,
The night exploded and I felt this small pain in my chest."
"I looked around to get some aid - the only things I found
Were big, deep craters in the earth - bodies on the ground.
I kept on firing at them, sir. I tried to do my best,
But finally sat down with this small pain in my chest."
"I'm grateful, sir", he whispered, as I handed my canteen
And smiled a smile that was, I think, the brightest that I've seen.
"Seems silly that a man my size so full of vim and zest,
Could find himself defeated by a small pain in his chest."
"What would my wife be thinking of her man so strong and grown,
If she could see me sitting here, too weak to stand alone?
Could my mother have imagined, as she held me to her breast,
That I'd be sitting HERE one day with this pain in my chest?"
"Can it be getting dark so soon?" He winced up at the sun.
"It's growing dim and I thought that the day had just begun.
I think, before I travel on, I'll get a little rest ..........
And, quietly, the boy died from that small pain in his chest.
I don't recall what happened then. I think I must have cried;
I put my arms around him and I pulled him to my side
And, as I held him to me, I could feel our wounds were pressed
The large one in my heart against the small one in his chest.
by Michael Mack
Sunday, August 19, 2007
The Magical Words
We happen to encounter situations in relations that are not planned or expected and we happen to say and do things that are not meant... but the fact stands that it occurred... so what we do ?
do we realize and accept situation and try to do the needful to patch it up or just leave it on time or the next person to forget the incidence....
No, I m not saying that its bad happened because of us but can not we discuss this with a cool mind.... Ego ???? come on is this ego is what we have to live life and keep on loosing relations to make survive our ego.... I don't see any sanity in doing so....
Why don't we use the magical words that always works... yes there are few very very special words like SORRY, Thanks ! Love you, Miss You.... and so on... but we hesitate to use them quite often just because of our EGO !!
We be rather be honest to ourselves rather than feeding the EGO !!
time is something that waits for nothing nor does it gives second chance to everyone... you are lucky if you have got one... but trust me on my words when i say that be careful with the time it does not give a second chance not even to thank someone or to say sorry....
So my friend before its too late go and say the magical words and see the magic happening...it works to strengthen relations.....
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Freindship or an Emotional Affair
Emotional affairs can be especially harmful to new relationships. When you've first started dating, things are tentative and unsure, and can be easily derailed with misunderstandings. Asking a potential partner to accept an inappropriate friendship is a sure-fire way to end your new relationship before it even starts.
If you are having an emotional affair with the opposite sex, ask yourself why you want to continue. Are you afraid of a real relationship, and therefore hold on to this emotional affair? Having a friend to fantasize about can be a crutch to hold you back from developing a healthy relationship.
When you begin to share intimate or hurtful details of your relationship with one particular friend of the opposite sex, you are in the beginning stages of an emotional affair. Every relationship has ups and downs, but by relaying personal information on your significant other you are also betraying his or her trust.
Thats why its said that friendships are great but emotional affairs are trouble...
When you begin to have feelings of attraction for your friend. You wonder what it would be like to kiss or touch your friend. You are getting in an emotional affair.
You spend more energy longing for your friend than you do your partner. When you're with your partner, you look forward to when you can get back to spending time with your friend.
You tend to hide information on your friendship from your partner. You email or call each other in secret, and when asked how you two spent your time you have a tendency to lie.
Something about your friendship bothers your partner, and when he or she asks you about it you get uncomfortable or defensive.
You believe that no matter how great the new person in your life is, he or she will never be able to know you quite like your friend does.
You are jealous when your friend goes on a date. You find yourself hoping your friend will not find love and instead spend time with you.
source://http://dating-advice.suite101.com/
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